matagt1983

My wife has no common sense and it makes me crazy. She does and says stupid things and she does it so much to the point that I am constantly worried about her well being. She is just constantly doing and saying things that makes no sense at all. For example, she has two older sisters, ones a half and the other is full blood and they are all four years apart from each other. A friend asked her how old was your oldiest sister when your mother met your father. My wife says "Uh... I don't know like 12." I got so embaressed and she does stuff like that all the time. I don't want to leave her cause I love her but when she drives to another town to get her oil changed instead of looking for one near by it just drives me crazy and it keeps me in a bad mood. I have told her on plenty of occasions to think before she does or says things but she just gets mad at me and yells about how I think shes stupid. I feel bad because she is the sweetiest person in the world but I can't handle her not useing her head anymore. What should I do? I don't want her to get herself killed cause she does not think before she does things and believe me it came close a couple times.

Mavash.

Did you know this about her before you married her?

EleGirl

So how old was her mother when she had the oldest sister?

We all say and do stupid things sometimes. She might more than others but cut her some slack.

Learn to have some humor about this.

Why should it bother you if she drives all over to get her oil changed? It's her time. Maybe she likes the drive. Or maybe you could just do it for her?


There is no perfect spouse or person. A lot of people eventually find something about their spouse that drives them up the wall. It seems that what drives your wife up the wall is your constant picking at her for the things she says and does.

See you both have found something

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KHC223

Thats a weekly thing in my life we try to laugh it off and that's fine, one her famous lines we joke about, what would happen if something happenned. She laughs it off mostly

Bobby5000

Please don't take offense, but I find your conduct more annoying than hers. Driving another 5 minutes for an oil change is no big deal; for you to go ballistic over that is strange. I happen to be very good at math and can easily add in my head; others can't why is that a big deal either. You need to chill out. Your professed concern is strange too. How would someone miscalculating an age or taking another 5 minutes for an oil change get herself killed. On the other hand, I do understand how type A behavior does contribute to heart attack. Personality, Type A behavior, and coronary heart disease: The role of emotional expression. Friedman,
Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, Vol 53(4), Oct 1987, 783-792

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My mother who raised 8 kids, used to drive a town over to buy less expensive day old bread. Some might think she was stupid, I think she is sweet and who cares. Life is too short to woory about being perfect for everyone else.

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this made me wonder if you would be interested in doing a stand up routine. Someone needs to fill Rodney Dangerfield's shoes now that he's gone.

LONELY IN VA

I understand about a lack of common sense, my husband and brother-in-law don't have a lick common sense.
they don't know how to communicate with anyone other than themselves, they don't have friends, they come home eat @#^# and shower to bed and start it all over the next day and thats their life.
Example: My brother-in-law to me is slow (mentally but has never been tested) he works for my husband with whom got him the job.
Example of his stupidity:
He wanted to plant grass in the back yard, spent 200 on grass seeds etc... I asked him if I could help, I knew he would do it righ.
He didn't rack brake the dirt, he just throw seeds out and put that green fleet like over the spots and places our patio chairs over each spot.
We have a 2 yr old GSD and a poodled that will destroy anything you lay down.
the next day the dogs had destroyed the fleet and it just layed there until I asked my husband if he was going to pick up the mess.
week laterd he picked it up. No grass to this day.

Is that stupid or what?

southbound

It seems like people are really torn up over people's comments and lack of common sense lately. What are your levels of education and what are your occupations? Is she a hard worker or a lazy person? Not that it makes a difference, but I'm just wondering if you feel a little higher up the totem pole than her. There may be more things she does besides what you described, but I'd say give her some slack. If my x wife had taken the initiative to have gotten the oil changed, I wouldn't have cared where she did it; that would have been a chore I didn't have to do.
What did she do that almost got herself killed?

I guess we all have things that we feel show a lack of common sense. I'm more down on things that seem to be accepted among the masses that i think are stupid, like mowing the lawn at least once a week even during a drought when it doesn't need it, but it's just their routine. Most people where I'm from do this and never think twice, and then make stupid comments like, "It's really dry, I mowed my lawn last week and could hardly tell what had been mowed and what hadn't." How do you respond to that?

And I love it when educated people spend all their money on stuff, and then complain about how bad the economy is and that it's tough to get by. Well, the last time I checked all the toys and stuff that people want isn't life necessities.

Runs like Dog

Wifey for years refused to use GPS even though she gets lost in a phone booth. So the Mapquest directions got printed and that was that. All of a sudden she 'discovered' GPS on her phone, started 'using' it but routinely ignores whatever it tells her and she gets lost anyhow.

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CanadianGuy

Yet somehow always finds her way home to you.

larry.gray

If it's anything like my dad, 3/4 of a tank of gas is mysteriously gone from a trip to the grocery store.