07-12-2009, 06:44 AM
Join Date: Apr 2008
Location: Southern USA
| | Re: Trying to save my marriage
Your story is similar to mine and a lot of other people's on this forum. At least you will have plenty of company. However, my marriage lasted 23 years--I got the old "I love you, but I'm not in love with you line" 2 1/2 years ago. My estranged husband was having an affair. You may want to look into that possibility. Are you and your hubby separated? I'm just wondering if your hubby went to counseling just to ease his own conscience. Since the duration of counseling was so short, I'm wondering if his mind was made up before hand.
There's a wonderful book by Gary Chapman titled "The Five Love Languages". It really does a wonderful job of addressing the entire concept of "I love you, but I'm not in love with you". If possible get your spouse to read it also. I tried to get my spouse to read it, but he wouldn't. That was another indicator to me he had already checked out of the marriage.
Hang in there!