Corpuswife

I wanted to start a thread here.

I've been married 24 years to my HS sweetheart. It is not an abusive relationship and neither one of us have ever had an affair. Last Oct. he gave me the "I love you but I am no longer in love with you speech." Many things had happened in the last year...my son had a crisis and the a stock market crashed in Oct. He is a financial advisor and was affected by this (job and personal).

We both have undergone individual and couples counseling. In Febuary he stated that he wanted to work towards a divorce. Since Oct., I've stepped up to the plate; initiating sex; convincing; happy talk; crying; begging; pleading; etc. Nothing has worked. He was determined to divorce...to be alone and have some "fun."

For the past several weeks, after reading Dr. Dobson's book, I've been using his strategy. We are currently separated (3 days) and I hope this will give him a wake up call. He knows where I stand. He was trapped and now he is free. We will see how it goes?

Anyone out there using this approach or read the book?

Amplexor

Hi Corpus

As you know I am a supporter of his methods but they can be risky. In our case it was helpful as it helped me to regain my confidence and she saw that. I think the strategy is the most effective when one spouse has emotionally left the marriage and the other is trying to hang on. While trying to dote and do all you can for your spouse can actually drive them further away showing them you want the marriage to survive but will be fine if it doesn't (Even being distant yourself) can draw them back. The book had a positive effect on our situation. Anyone else?

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