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post #1 of 2 (permalink) Old 07-10-2013, 06:12 AM Thread Starter
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Question Any Suggestions? Newly Wed lost and confused

Alright, Ill make it short and sweet. I am a newly wed to a man I just met less then a year ago. Our relationship was wonderful, until we got married (his choice). A bit of back info, I have 3 boys from a previous relationship and am use to being independent. He on the other hand, has no kids lived with his mom and has maybe had 1 other relationship in his life. He has what seems alot of resentment for a trip we made to my home town to let my kids visit thier father. He basically feels I abandoned him and cheated with my ex on our honeymoon. Reality is that I never left him, or cheated I took my kids over to their fathers while he nursed a hangover. So now its almost a year later, he holds that over me as almost a reason to fight and leave. He goes to another woman's house who he claims that he "helps" or "walks the dog" but is gone sometimes for days. Ive personally spoken to both of them how it makes me feel about their time spent, i get 2 stories. She claims nothing happened but is very interesting in my husband sexually. He says nothing happened, but continues to go over there even though Ive expressed my concerns... and also while he was drinking (drunk) he told me he screwed her. I dont know what to do to save my marriage, he perceives that i did cheat so it makes it ok for him? Please any advice helps.... Im so lost and confused and our relationship is getting the point of everyday he picks fights to leave. - Lonely discouraged newly wed

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Re: Any Suggestions? Newly Wed lost and confused

It appears that even if he didn't cheat on you with this other woman, he's not willing to show you the respect you deserve. Your children maintain a relationship with their father which you, rightly, facilitate. Good for you! You love your children more than you dislike your ex. But your current husband can't accept that. So he uses an innocent visit as an excuse to hurt you. And, what's more - to go on hurting you.

So, while two wrongs never make a right, three rights make a u-turn. You did nothing wrong, but you might want to consider making those three rights and getting out of there. He doesn't sound mature enough or kind enough for you.

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