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post #16 of 94 (permalink) Old 02-10-2009, 02:53 PM
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Hiya Guys, Hope you all are doing a little better. As part of the programme today i took a marriage assessment (this is actually free off Morts website even if you didnt get the course! which i think is awsome!) and it wasnt good....i scored an 8! Also i learnt about the compatibilty myth......and as far as i can make out, thats exactly what it is....a myth!...."....its not falling in love with the right person but falling in love with the person you have found!" a great quote!!!! and now one more..... cinderalla asked "do you love me because im beautiful or am i beautiful because you love me?" these were some great quotes for me to ponder on. You know as i said before that this would be an even better course if there were a few more sucess stories about different situations because (and Mort does talk about the fact that every situation is different) i think people might be able to relate better. Oh by the way, i never did hear back from Mort again in regards to getting another book???!!!!! which kind of makes me a little sad and angry as it kind of makes me think that the little guy has lost out.....again, yes im sure hes busy but does he have not staff????? i thought they were meant to be helpful. Now dont get me wrong, if they put it right then i will definately tell you guys- the reason for all this is not to be a place to slag this course but to help people make a informed decison. My wife and i did meet up again and we decided to have no contact for 3 weeks (true, may have broken one of Morts rules but to be honest at the time i think it was the right thing to do) Well off to do other stuff......need to keep busy! Take care everyone and speak to you all soon.

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Hiya Guys,

Well at the moment im watching the DVD that was supplied with the course, its a live session with Mort (put love first). So far it looks good. Well back to how the course is going......i must admit, im struggling at the moment.....as i really miss my wife and i find it hard to not be in contct with her; but on the other side of the coin, if you dont have ANY contact then you cant get back togeather! you see guys my thinking was.... give my wife space and time to think....but one danger is that she may come back and say "i love you but i dont want to be in a relationship with you" as she has said this in the past. Also i am now on phase 5, i have quickly skimmed through the course and i did not notice we get to write a marriage contract, which im really looking forward to doing. Guys, i think one of the really good things about this course is that its kind of fun as your not talking about the negative things (though you dont ignore it totally) but concentrate on being better and keeping it better! well just a short one today folks, want to go and watch the rest of the DVD, enjoy the rest of your day (or night)......see ya later!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Hiya Guys, I finished the DVD.....sorry but didnt think that much of it, it started off well......but well it wasnt that great....it was ok. Im in a better place these days, even though it is hard, espically if you are on the lone ranger track and you dont live with your spouse........i have to remain positive! Sorry guys, just a short post today
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Hey guys! sorry have been away. Well tonight i started doing my template for my "intimacy interview" and i must amit, i really enjoyed it, though not as easy as i thought it might be....still can put more into it so its a work in progress! though i am looking forward to "interviewing" my wife! plus i suppose it will also be an indication of where i stand. About to rewrite my marriage misson statment (this will be my second version) so ill let yoa know how it goes. Well guys just a short post, as need to go to sleep as have an early start. take care all
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Thanks for keeping us updated with your progress, kiwi!

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Kiwi where are you????? I would like to keep up with your thread. I am considering Mort's program.
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Kiwi,

I hope everything has worked out for you and your wife. I pray that Mort's program worked for you and that you and your wife are so busy reconnecting that's why you have stopped posting. God bless you and your family. I wish you much happiness and success.
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Hi there...I am wondering if anybody has Mort Fertel's emails saved anywhere. There was one a few weeks back that talked a bit about "mirroring". I saved all but that one and I kinda need it now...darn it!! If anybody has it, could they cut and paste it here? THanks!
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I would love to see that too. I have been getting his e-mails for the past 2 weeks and his insight seems to be very good. So good I just bought the home-flex set-up. Should be here tomorrow, just in time!!!
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I have been receiving Mort's emnails & purchased the Home Flex program (Lone Tracker) & got it last Thursday...just in time for the 1st teleconference. He does give very good advice, however sometimes I feel I am playing a door mat to my husband. I have not seen the "mirroring" email yet, but will certainly post it here if & when I do.

RCM -- I would love to compare notes with you to see if we can help each other with ideas using the Home Flex program. What do you say????

My situation is exactly as Mort explained in his "Did I marry the right person" email. We are at that cycle of our relationship where someone else's grass is awful green & pretty compared to mine. Obviously I am doing to "Lone Ranger" version & my husband has no idea.

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I also received Morts program lasat week and have been trying the talk and touch charges to no avail.My wife is having an affair and says she doesnt know if she wants to stay together.She is resistant to my touch and doesnt want to talk.I know Mort says one person can make a difference but this is really frustrating.Its only been a week so I'll keep plugging away.Its just tough knowing every time she goes out shes going to see him.Plus she works with him so that makes it doubly tough.Please keep posting with your progress
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I have also been trying talk & touch charges with little response. Mort is right that this is damn hard!!!! I put my feelings out there just to be rejected time & time again. My emotions are all over the place and I am hating myself & my life right now. Cannot beleive it has gotten to this point.

My husband is also involved with someone from his job and says he doesn't want to work things out. Knowing how I feel, I am sorry for what you must be going through. I know how much it hurts. My husband wont admit that their is someone else, but I know. I used to do enough spying that what I gathered was enough fo me to know.

I'll keep you in my prayers.
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Well maybe touch charges are working.Wife actually gave me a little peck goodbye as we left for work this morning.It aint much but hey its a start.Picabu I will also keep you in my prayers.I hope things work out for you.Keep up the good fight
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i am barely holding on. once this week he left the house wihout his wedding ring. the next day he almost did again & then I reminded him & he put it on. (who knows if he keeps it on) Last night he came home from work in a decent mood. we were able to have pleasant casual conversation. then his text messaging started to go crazy. attitude changed to irritated. i am sure his mistress (who also works with him) is pressuring him to make a move. I am hurt & try my best not to show him. this morning i went to kiss him good by & he basically turned to give me the corner of his mouth.

i just don't understnd him. he says he is no longer in love with me & doesn't think he could be again. i asked him if i could get the house refinanced w/o him, would he leave & didn't he still want to move on. He replied yes, but let me think about it for a couple of days.

it's been three weeks & he hasn't brought it back up. he still sleeps in the same bed, even though we have a guest room with a better mattress. we still have sex at least once a week. although most times he will not kiss me while we are or concern himself with foreplay for me. he used to be all about me getting my orgasm first, now could care less if i get one at all.

this past sunday we had very passionate fulfilling orgasmic sex, he actually kissed me very passionately. I was amazed...hadn't been that good in some time....now this week he wont even acknowledge me pleasuring myself while he is in the same room.

i don't understand why he still sleeps in the same bed & why he hasn't mentioned the refinance thing. is he just confused???? I hope her pressuring him, if she is will put him off. he hates to be told what to do.

i often wonder should i contact her, but that is a question that I have not found Mort to address.

I am so lonely, confused, scared and so damn depressed I dont know how much longer i can keep up this constant set up for rejection. i want desperately to save this marriage!!!!!!
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I am new, thinking of this program. How is the program working for you that have been doing it awhile? Have you stopped? Can we get an update? Thanks.
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