Re: Review of Mort Fertel's Marriage Fitness Program
A message to all from the Cheater and unbeliever. Three years ago I tainted my marriage and revieled a 2yr affair to my husband. We were about to have our second child and we worked things out as best we could going to counseling and me being as honest as possible.
Fast forward 3yrs later and his forgivness never really was there that entire time, but for me it was too late. I had worked so hard to regain his trust and love him as best I knew how. We just were not on the same page all that time, and I thought we were.
A few months ago we separated, moving into different homes and I was DONE, given up and ready to enjoy the "single mom life" as we have been together since I was 16yrs old.
Fast forward again 6 months later and my husband has tried so hard to patch our broken marriage. After finding Morts website he realized many things he had neglected in our marriage. He began sending me Mort Fertel emails a few months back and on occassion I would read, but remember I was in a different frame of mind, done with trying! Last night I finally put in Morts CD that my husband left for me to listen to a few weeks ago. I thought, "What the heck, why not listen while I clean house just to appease him". After a slow start I found myself sitting on the couch actually listening and understanding what he meant. Words that seemed SO SIMPLE yet turned on a switch in my heart, in my mind and I continued on to CD #2 and now I'm on #3 and have told my husband I'm ready to TRY! Those were words he thought he'd never hear again.
This may seem crazy, but this is coming from someone who felt her 10yr marriage after many little issues that built up and one major issue of my affair, is finally ready to realize that I have one amazing person to LOVE in my life. He has stood by me through thick and thin and I know I married him all those years ago for a reason. Finding a new partner in my life would only result in the same or similar issues we face now, and most of which can be fixed. My affair years ago was in result to my unhapiness in my marriage and I can guarentee wouldn't happen again. I know for those of you out there being cheated ON, you must find a way to help detour your spouse from feeling they are getting more love away from home, because they are BLINDED by the affair right now and in that "falling" stage thinking everything is new and fun and exciting. It may be hard to even reason with them, but if your dedicated enough like my husband was and they are able to remove themselves from the affair, thing CAN get better.
I will try to update everyone as we go and share my story. I am open to helping others so if you want to ask me questions, feel free.
This won't be something to fix overnight, as we've had some problems for a few years now, but I have a good feeling we are both ready for change and to CREATE LOVE as Mort says.