Re: Review of Mort Fertel's Marriage Fitness Program
I was in a position where I really didn't think things could get any worse with my marriage. Things were awful. Though my experience was not as traumatic as some of the stories here, at the time it felt like every day I was just sinking deeper and deeper into a pit of depression.
My husband and I were dealing with serious trust issues in the wake of infidelity. He cheated, than I cheated, the trust was broken, and even when I went to a therapist to seek help, my husband came once and then refused to ever go back there. I felt guilty but also angry and it just seemed like because I'd done something wrong too I couldn't make him ever love me again. It just felt so hopeless. I'd have to say it was the darkest period of my life. This was about a year ago and since then things have improved alot. Though regular therapy wasn't a good fit for us, I started with the Lone Wolf track of mort's program and slowly started to turn things around.
He says it can take two years to truly return to normal or to decide to separate for good so I've still got a ways to go. But, the good news is it feels like we are on the upswing.
Despite all the hurt and lies and misery, we ultimately decided that marriage is worth putting in effort. It's not easy. It's never going to be easy. We might even mess things up again tomorrow - who knows - but the point is today, we are trying.
I just wanted to mention my story because reading my journal from a few years ago, I never thought my marriage would turn out ok. I never though I could be a "success story". So if people are feeling really low and think their marriage is done for, it might not be. There could be a chance for better days again.