01-05-2010, 04:56 PM
Join Date: Dec 2009
Location: Los Angeles, CA
| | Re: This one is kind of out there...
In my experience some men really need to be taken by the hand and told exactly what to do. Just like some women do I am sure. Also I think some men don't really believe that their wives or long-term girlfriends are as sexual as we say we are, so we have to show them. So I think everybody who has posted so far has the right ideas.
For my H and me one of the keys was to start talking about fantasies. I had to go first, and I found out why: he was afraid that if he told me what he was thinking, I would be grossed out. But once I shared some of mine with him, it made it easier for him to share some of his with me.
There are some we are willing to explore in real life and others that are off-limits, but those ones are the ones we talk about most because they are the hottest. So that has helped us to explore more fun stuff too.
I think the bottom line is that if you want wilder sex, you have to lead the way toward wilder sex.