Sex in MarriageSexual problems are common in many relationships. This section is for discussions about sexuality. Please limit discussions to those asking for help with a problem and those offering advice. Any other threads may be deleted.
I would want to know if my partner had a fantasy. How else could I help fulfill it? If it wasn't something that I'd feel happy actually doing then perhaps he could get some satisfaction from talking about it.
me too, if i thought my wife had a fetish or fantasy it would drive me wild and i would do anything to fulfill it (within reason of course).
I have two very secret fetishes that I would not reveal to my husband. I am not sure why I have them, but when I am alone, I think about them and masturbate to numerous explosive orgasms. The ones I have revealed and we act out I only allow them to be done every so often, it keeps them fresh and drives him wild. Same with his.
Everything is a matter of degrees. Fetishes to me are on a scale of 1-10.... My wife is comfortable about sex, but fetishes she has trouble with anything over a 1 or 2 on the fetish scale.
Tying up and restraining to a bed post can be fun (maybe a 2), then you push and ask that they tie you up restraining 100% or in all sorts of funny positions (google as my description does not do it service), which may be too much for some.
Then there are fetishes such anal, threesomes, s&m, cross-dressing, gay fantasies, rape fantasies, cuckold, swinging, lingerie, watersports........ All of which mean different things to different people,
Hey cbachinger, I absolutely LOVE the bulge too. I' not so sure it's a fetish but merely loving a particular body part. I've noticed that the bulge grows larger as a woman gets hornier and hornier. The bulge is probably a design feature to help facilitate intercourse and we, being males who are vision oriented, probably intuitively associate the bulge with imminent activity. If it's a fetish, then I have, as I've joked about, a p-ssy fetish.
I told my SO that I loved the bulge and she said that she hated the way it looks or was embarrassed by it. I love to make love in the daytime primarily so I can see more. The fetist may be me wanting to stare at it as long as possible.
I have two very secret fetishes that I would not reveal to my husband. I am not sure why I have them, but when I am alone, I think about them and masturbate to numerous explosive orgasms. The ones I have revealed and we act out I only allow them to be done every so often, it keeps them fresh and drives him wild. Same with his.
I am not saying what my fetish is, but at first my husband was weirded out. Then was for it and liked it, then used it agianst me to degrade me.
I think it is fear of exactly this sort of situation that holds people back from discussing not just fetishes / fantasies but even quite mild degrees of sexual exploration.
That anything you say will be taken down and used against you in evidence at a later date...
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I am about to the point of packing my bags. My husband is not a real vengfull person. But I am afraid if crap hits the fan he would use that knowledge against me to hurt me.
My family is very religous, I grew up in church, private school ect. Although I have not been going to chruch, I still have my familys beliefs, and values ingrained in me.
And my fetish, and pretty much most of what my husband and I have done in bed is a no no.
It would cause a lot of issues with my family should those things be brought to light.
I am about to the point of packing my bags. My husband is not a real vengfull person. But I am afraid if crap hits the fan he would use that knowledge against me to hurt me.
My family is very religous, I grew up in church, private school ect. Although I have not been going to chruch, I still have my familys beliefs, and values ingrained in me.
And my fetish, and pretty much most of what my husband and I have done in bed is a no no.
It would cause a lot of issues with my family should those things be brought to light.
I would say this represents the worst case scenario, where someone has done a u-turn and decided to use a behaviour they willingly participated in against their partner.
I'm lucky in that Mrs Beane and I are quite happy to discuss sex, and we have (more or less) very similar limits. Generally, we have been more than willing to have a punt, once or twice at least. Even if there's something one of us fancies that the other doesn't, we are able to be polite and reasonable about it and say something to the effect of "OK, fine, but it's not my cup tea, sorry". Unless it's out where you wonder if your partner ought to up before the courts, we're see eye to eye and can act like partners, not adversaries.
However, I suspect that at a lower level there are a great many people who won't reveal to their partners that they fancy something really quite pedestrian like oral, doggy, having the lights on or or just being uncovered because they fear (quite possibly with reasonable grounds) that such an admission will get them cast as a pervert and bring their sex life to a grinding halt.
The discussion of sex in some marriages is on a knife edge. I'm glad mine is balanced across a big, flat rock.
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Can you rokker Romani chib, pal? Aye, aye, brother!
What's Weshenjuggalslomomengreskeytemskeytudlogueri? I don't know what you say, brother.
Then you don't jin Romani chib...
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