Increasing my husband's sex drive
My husband and I have been married for 17 years. We have a great marriage in most senses. We communicate all the time, joke around, laugh together...... But we have never been able to have compatible sex drives. I have more of a sex drive than he does . A lot more and it has been this way our entire marriage. He prefers to have sex once or twice a month, I prefer daily if not several times a day. The quality is pretty good. There is usually several minutes of foreplay followed by 2 minutes or so of intercourse. (It doesn't seem like a long time, but is usually gets the job done.) Anyway, he has a hobby that tends to interfere with our sex life. He LOVES gaming. Whether it's an Xbox, computer, whatever, he loves them. It takes up several hours(4-5) of his night. I have done things like talk dirty to him, promise him sexual favors, I sell bedroom accessories so I'll tell him we can try out a new toy, or lotion, whatever I can do to pull him off of his gaming at a reasonable hour. His response is usually annoyance or mild frustration. I end up feeling rejected and totally frustrated. There are times that I have went ahead and went to bed only to get up a while later and catch him masturbating in front of the TV. Lately I have taken to more self stimulation and porn. It doesn't make me feel rejected, but what I really want is for him to want to be with me. It's felt bad enough that I have started having 'sexting' conversations with a close guy friend. There are no pictures exchanges, just dirty messages. I know this isn't right, but he makes me feel sexually wanted and I have found it hard to give that up. I don't know what to do. I really would like to either increase his sex drive or calm mine down. There is going to come a day where it will ruin my marriage.