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Old 03-31-2012, 05:51 PM   #16 (permalink)
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i dont think there is an answer...everyone has a different views and opinions and reasons why their marriage is sexless.

can you "live" without sex...its wont phsically kill you....but life would not be as great...

as a woman...no, i cannot live without sex, and sex acts. i personally need it in my life.

would i divorce my husband for lack of sex...more than likely...
would my husband divorce me for lack for sex...in a mili-second..

a marriage without sex, is nothing more than a great friendship, or rommies...
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Old 03-31-2012, 06:44 PM   #17 (permalink)
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I am in a sexless marriage and it is fine with me. I would definitely not get divorced due to lack of sex as I am emotionally very happy in my relationship and get all the intimacy I need/require even without sex.
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Old 03-31-2012, 06:47 PM   #18 (permalink)
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Of course its possible. What a dumb question. (NO OFFENSE.)
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Old 03-31-2012, 08:37 PM   #19 (permalink)
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Yes,
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& Yes.
There are lots of ways to get your sexual release other than marital sex.
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Old 03-31-2012, 08:58 PM   #20 (permalink)
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Sure you can, if you really want to. Of course, you can also live on a diet of bland food and water. But why would you want to?

Ther has been a number of studies showing that sex has a number of benefits besides the obvious "feels f'ing good".
Health Benefits of the Male Orgasm

Personally, the way I see it... It's free, low calorie, and it feels great. Plus it provides numerous relationship benefits if it's there, and has many negative relationship impacts if it's not. So why wouldn't you?

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Old 03-31-2012, 08:59 PM   #21 (permalink)
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Yes, life will go on without sex. However, it will not be a good life. My husband and I would live in misery without making love to each other.

My drive is higher then his at this moment of time. Making love is an absolute blessing.
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Old 03-31-2012, 09:28 PM   #22 (permalink)
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MEM If this is too intrusive please don't answer. I am imaging myself in your wife's place and what i would do. My husband would be like you after two weeks. I don't think he has gone two weeks without for tge entirity of our marriage. I think i would want to give a bj or hj or caress him while he masturbated. If your wife did that what would you feel and how would you respond?.
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Old 03-31-2012, 10:50 PM   #23 (permalink)
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I think it really depends on why there's no sex. Is it due to an accident or illness that prevents the partners from having sex? If so, would that be reason in itself to end the marriage? For me, no. Would it give me license to go find someone else just for a sexual outlet? No. OTOH, STBXH told me years ago that he felt that if the above scenario happened, he thought it let him out of the 'forsaking all others' part of the vows because I would not be able to fulfill that part of the contract. Since sex is just one facet of many that make up a love relationship as far as I'm concerned, but one that I take VERY seriously in terms of exclusivity, his statement always laid there in the back of my mind. I could never feel totally secure, knowing that he'd 'jump ship' so to speak even if it meant that I wouldn't be able to have sex, either. We wouldn't be making the sacrifice together and finding another way to express intimacy together. I could envision myself paralyzed, watching him walk out the door to go 'have his needs met,' waving bravely.
I guess I feel like, if everything else goes out the window if I'm no longer able to f- him, well, then, F HIM!

So, to answer your question, Yes, I think you can have a marriage without sex. Just as you can have sex and a sh!tty marriage.


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For me as a woman, no, I could not live without sex.

I mean, I COULD, but why would I want to?
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For women: Yes.

For men: No.
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To steal a line from one of my favorite movies, life without sex "is possible, but not recommended."
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Elsewhere in other threads I have explained my personal problems, but here I would like to raise a more general question:

- Consider you do have sexual desire;
- Consider you cannot satisfy your sexual desire with your husband/wife (many forum participants claim they do not get sex from their partners, in my case I have reached to the point where I no longer want sex with her because of persistent refusal during a long period of time);

- Question A: is life without sex possible?
- Question B: is it feasible/reasonable to keep the marriage alive?
- Question C: can you indeed call marriage a relationship without sex?

Your views, please
A. No. I become very moody and grumpy when I do not have enough sex and that would keep others away. Humans need some sort of human interaction.

B.My husband already knows that I will not stay in a sexless marriage. It is too important to me to give up.

C. A marriage that has not been consummated can be annulled, because of what sex signifies in a marriage. A spouse who won't have sex is a roommate.
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Personally, the way I see it... It's free, low calorie, and it feels great.....So why wouldn't you?C
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No my friend, sex is NEVER free, not for men anyway. There is ALWAYS a price to be paid.
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Old 04-01-2012, 08:01 PM   #29 (permalink)
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No my friend, sex is NEVER free, not for men anyway. There is ALWAYS a price to be paid.
We all do things for selfish reasons. Even the most anonymous act of kindness is done because it makes us feel good to have done it, even if nobody else knows about it. So in terms of sex, if you're implying my GF has a price for providing me with sex, that there's something I provide her in exchange, it's a price I'm gladly and unknowingly paying.

Perhaps you hang out with the wrong women? My GF has a sex drive as high as my own. Whether that stays, who knows. I'll cross that bridge when I come to it.

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Women pay an emotional price for sex. There are too many men out there who take pleasure in using females for sex, callously walking away as soon as they get what they want.

It is sad because by the time a wounded woman meets a decent man, she is too bruised and cynical to trust anyone with a d!ck again.

Men often change for the worse after they get a woman to sleep with them, no matter how long the woman holds off. This has been my experience.
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