Ok, me and my wife have been married for about 2 and a half years, and overall I would say we have a pretty good marriage, like we leave each other notes, make each other meals, tell each other we love each other, all these things are all about 50/50, so doesnt really seem like anybody is chasing anybody..although I used to push sexual intimacy maybe more than I shouldve, I am a guy and have a high sex drive, my wife seems in a better mood if she gets sex at least twice a week, more than 3 times a week and shes just tired all the time...but I understand, I used to have a harder time understanding this...but have learned that just cuz your married doesnt mean you cant masterbait..so I started masterbaiting once or twice a week...she has never masterbaited once in her life and is grossed out at the thought of me masterbaiting, and I asked her if she ever has and she was like "Noooooo noooo"
anyways thats some deep stuff, but I guess thats what we do here at this website, say deep things. Ultimately our problem is my wife doesnt seem to crave sex anywhere close to the level that I do, she loves it when we have sex, but she will never instigate, I have tried many different things, like talking about it in a nice way, being a better husband, done all kinds of romantic things, I even try pretending not to care about sex, to see if that will make her want it more....its just alot of the times when we are having sex it seems like she is more worried about trying to stay clean than enjoying sex, she wont ever touch me in a sexual way without me instigating it first, she gives me head, but only if I ask for it which I dont like doing, cuz then its not like she wants to do it.. I shave down there, keep clean, I go down on her all the time and she loves it, and she lets me know...but to get her to go down on me seems like such a chore to her...the only time she ever gives me head without me asking for it is in the shower, and that only starts if I start kissing her, which is kinda like asking her for head in a way.....
I guess all I want is for her to be a little more dirty minded, she is too inoccent, and I have come to the point to just accept it, but its hard, especially in the world we live in, sex is every where, except in my own house....I am just afraid because we dont even have kids yet...cuz whenever we are in a house where theres people next room, she wont have sex, she is just so scared of other people hearing....she covers her mouth when I give her head which kinda ruins it for me cuz I like the noises, but she is too ashamed...
How can I get my wife to just enjoy sex and give oral sex and enjoy it...how can I get her to be a little dirty and naughty, how can I get her to anjoy giving oral, or instigating dirtier or more erotic sex positions, or other out of the ordinary sex positions?
thank you for any help...
anyways thats some deep stuff, but I guess thats what we do here at this website, say deep things. Ultimately our problem is my wife doesnt seem to crave sex anywhere close to the level that I do, she loves it when we have sex, but she will never instigate, I have tried many different things, like talking about it in a nice way, being a better husband, done all kinds of romantic things, I even try pretending not to care about sex, to see if that will make her want it more....its just alot of the times when we are having sex it seems like she is more worried about trying to stay clean than enjoying sex, she wont ever touch me in a sexual way without me instigating it first, she gives me head, but only if I ask for it which I dont like doing, cuz then its not like she wants to do it.. I shave down there, keep clean, I go down on her all the time and she loves it, and she lets me know...but to get her to go down on me seems like such a chore to her...the only time she ever gives me head without me asking for it is in the shower, and that only starts if I start kissing her, which is kinda like asking her for head in a way.....
I guess all I want is for her to be a little more dirty minded, she is too inoccent, and I have come to the point to just accept it, but its hard, especially in the world we live in, sex is every where, except in my own house....I am just afraid because we dont even have kids yet...cuz whenever we are in a house where theres people next room, she wont have sex, she is just so scared of other people hearing....she covers her mouth when I give her head which kinda ruins it for me cuz I like the noises, but she is too ashamed...
How can I get my wife to just enjoy sex and give oral sex and enjoy it...how can I get her to be a little dirty and naughty, how can I get her to anjoy giving oral, or instigating dirtier or more erotic sex positions, or other out of the ordinary sex positions?
thank you for any help...