turnera

Sit down with him and a big chart listing all the things that have to be taken care of for running your house and your kids. Ask him to point out those things that he thinks he should be responsible for, and what he thinks YOU should be responsible for. Ask him to add up the time allotted for each of you. Take the time to do this right. Until he understands that you never turn off as the mom, that you're working from 6am to 10pm, and see where he thinks HIS responsibilities lie in there.

Once he wraps his mind around that, have him consider what it would be like if HE had to do the same, work 15-20 hours, and THEN be required or expected to continue to do something that isn't that important to him or not driven by hormones.

Then don't stop talking until you reach an agreement on your FREQUENCY, as well as what his responsbilities are at home.