Wife doesn't like sex?
I have been married for just about four years now. While we were dating I noticed that my wife kind of shied away from sex, but I didn't think anything of it. After we got married, it got worse and worse. Now I am lucky if we have sex once a week. This wouldn't be a big deal except that I have a very very high sex drive. I have tried to ignore it, but I just can't help it. For some reason she just doesn't like sex. I have talked to her about it before, but she doesn't seem to care. ***TMI Allert*** Apparently her mom doesn't like sex either, never has according to my wife.
When I bring it up she gets all defensive and pissed off. I don't think I do it harshly or that I am abrasive about it, but no matter how the subject gets brought up, I feel like I turn out to be the bad guy. She travels constantly for work so we don't get to see each other much as it is. This month for example she is spending at least one night a week in a hotel room. I also work midnights, so when she is going to bed I am at work, when I am going to bed she is going to work. I would like to at least be a little sexual during the little time we actually are together. I don't know if it's me not being able to turn her on or what, but the longer we go on like this, the worse I feel about it. Every time I try to initiate sex she either is tired, doesn't feel good, didn't shower that day and feels nasty, has to get up early or something else.
She does initiate sex every now and then (whenever we do have sex), but most of the time I can tell that it's just for me. It feels like she is just doing it to hurry up and get it over with so she can go to sleep and I will shut up. That is not even close to enjoyable for me as you can imagine. I don't know what to do next, but I can't continue to go on like this. I suggested that she talk to someone about this (therapist, doctor, councilor) but that just turned into another fight. Any thoughts????????