Reaction to wife masterbating in bed next to me - was I out of line?
my wife and I are trying to rebuild our marriage which has deteriorated in the past few months. The 2 issues seem to be:
1) she think the sex is bad and feels there's no passion in our relationship (and NEVER has been, probably generally unattracted to me I'm guessing)
2) she's bored with her life in general
I reakon 1 is for me to work on and 2 is her so I am thinking of romantic things to do etc. We hadn't had sex for about 2 weeks and in the middle of the day I pulled the curtins, lit some candles and asked her to come upstairs. I gave her a massage then we had sex and it wasn't great (she doesn't like to do it during the day, she complained about everything).
Anyway, for the past 2 days (that I know of, probably longer), she has been masterbating in bed during the night, while lying next to me. I don't mind the actual act, infact it's a huge turn on, but because of the current state of our sex life (me completely unable to please her, and apparently never have been able to properly) it's really rubbing salt in the wound. I really don't mind her doing it but either don't do it when I'm around, or do it and INVOLVE me.
So last night, I saw her do it again at 3am ish (I sleep 2h a night at the moment). I waited until she had finished and said "were you masterbating?". She said "you're crazy I wasn't doing anything". There's no doubt she was. I said "ok, I want to as well". So I started to. She said "don't you do that here". Hah! Think she was in shock.
She turned over and faced away and I continued to do it, making some low key noises and movements. After about 5 minutes, she got up and went to the spare room. I finished, good one! and went to sleep for 1.5hours before I got up for work.
Was I out of line? Was it dumb?
I said to her earlier I wanted to give her oral sex that night (we haven't done that much in the past as she never wants it, says it's too tickly, but she agreed we should try again). She just didn't come to bed until really late, then just ends up masterbating. Bit frustrating.
Last edited by f1r3f1y3; 02-26-2010 at 01:32 AM.