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Old 03-01-2010, 03:00 PM   #1 (permalink)
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So I read something very interesting today, but somewhat bothered me. It said that if a man watches porn, over time it will be harder for him to get aroused by his wife because of the so called "perfect image" these porn stars have.

It stated that the problem with porn is that once a video is shot, its frozen in time, so these women never get older, never gain weight, and seem to be up for anything. Which is unrealistic when it comes to your spouse........

Ive been trying to be cool with porn- whenever i feel insecure about it i usually read post and articles about how its not a big deal and them im fine. After reading this, however, its got me questioning if this is true.

Is this something us wives should be worried about?
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Old 03-01-2010, 03:36 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Comparison cannot be made for me, apples and oranges. Porn is simply masturbation material. The "up for anything" is true I think and why many men watch it, they get to fantasize about what their wife won't do.
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The "up for anything" is true I think and why many men watch it, they get to fantasize about what their wife won't do.
i have seldom ever watched porn, but i think this statement is very true.
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Old 03-01-2010, 04:01 PM   #4 (permalink)
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I think excessively that's a true statement. If it's not excessively, than I disagree.

I know. . .define "excessive."

Probably about the same amount if a woman uses a vibrator vs. the real penis.

A real penis just can't move around that fast and that "harmonic."
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good point
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Old 03-02-2010, 06:39 AM   #6 (permalink)
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This is like "what is man's favorite colour?"

Meaning that people vary.
For me the answer is no, in fact to the contrary.

I like a nice body but porn is more about the submissiveness, the, dirtyness and the acts as it were. Not necessarily about oogling over a woman's body.
It may have an effect but its a positive one because I imagine or envision its my SO that is in the porn. In fact the ones i like BEST are the ones where there is a resemblence to her.
Many times what i see in porn i want to then re-enact with her.
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Old 03-02-2010, 08:50 AM   #7 (permalink)
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I think the question is alot like alcohol/ beer. Some men enjoy it with no long lasting affect. Some men abuse it and causes issues. Everyone needs to be aware of the signs that its being abused. Porn was something I used to avoid sexual issues with my wife. I began to get off on porn more than working through the issues with my wife and it led me a dark place I didnt want to be.

Porn is not bad no more than a gun is. Its the people that use it can turn bad. It has potential to be bad. But as long as everyone is enjoying it and you use it in moderation I think its ok.

Its an individual thing. Its not bad and its no good. It just is and its how you want to deal with it.
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Old 03-02-2010, 11:49 AM   #8 (permalink)
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Well then i guess the more appropriate question is how would you even know its turning into a bad thing until its too late? I mean generally speaking, you can tell if your SO is an alcoholic, or a drug addict, but porn isnt something that they are going to like be doing in front of you everyday for you to say "hey wait a minute......"

From your responses, I see that its not something to really be worried about unless your SO has an addiction i guess, i was really just more curious about it after reading that article....
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Old 03-02-2010, 11:59 AM   #9 (permalink)
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The only way you know about it is have conversations about it. It was a huge turn that the wife would watch it with me. Later she decided she hated it and stopped. I hid my watching from her. I watched it and she knew it but turned a blind eye to it. It got worse and I watched it more and started to take care of my own needs. It was become a problem.

Woman know when things are becoming a problem probably way before its a issues. The do one things wrong. They ignore issues and hope they will go away. Issues dont go away they grow is my expereince.

Talk to your SO and make sure he knows how you feel about the subject.
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Old 03-02-2010, 01:17 PM   #10 (permalink)
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I think it depends on the guy and what he's viewing it for.

Personally it does not have that kind of effect. I'm much more turned on by my wife than porn. However, if I'm taking care of business myself, I will use it as a visual stimulant for arousal.

I would guess that possible signs of a porn addiction would be a reduction in desire or frequency of sex with the SO, spending excessive time on the PC late at night, general withdrawal, other 'addiction' signs.
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Vino-I LOVE your answer, boy I hope my hubby is like u, that he is envisioning me LOL
I do notice on days he has watched porn, he usually initiates sex that day or the day after almst as if the visuals keep popping in his head from the porn so he just has to get some real live action
I always wondered about this as well(what sweetiepie is asking)
is if it makes men want their partner more or less
When I used to watch porn it used to make me just want my man...reallll bad...masturbation is just not as fulfillng for me as my man is
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When I used to watch porn it used to make me just want my man...reallll bad...masturbation is just not as fulfillng for me as my man is
When i watch porn it makes me just want my SO really bad....masturbation is just not as fullfilling for me as my woman.


hahaha We're saying the same thing it SEEMS.

UNfortunately... its awful hard to "draw lines" to what other people or thinking.
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Old 03-02-2010, 03:39 PM   #13 (permalink)
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I've used porn fairly regularly since I was in my early teens oh about 20 years ago. I 'can' take care of myself without it but the visual stimulation takes it to another level But for me my wife has always been much more of a turn on to me then any of the women in porn. My wife turns my on more now then ever, even after many many years of continued porn use. I'd pick her any day!
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I watch porn all the time.. More than normal tv.. For me its more to see the cool outfits and the funny stories they come up with.. *knock knock, pizza delivery guy!*, haha.

but it depends on the guy.. I've been with my wife for 10 years, and i can say i've watched porn every single day of those 10 years, and STILL i'd rather have sex with my wife than any porn star out there.. My wife can turn me on so fast, i mean if she takes her pants off and walks around in her undies, i'm ramped up and ready to go! hehehe.

My wife also watches porn and it gets her hot sometimes cuz she likes the girl on girl stuff, but says normal guy on girl porn is boring cuz its the same thing over and over.
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Old 03-03-2010, 09:42 AM   #15 (permalink)
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yay Vino yes we were saying the exact same things, I mean sure watchn porn n masturbating I am sure feels great and all but I would hope that most men out there prefer sex with an actual person instead of porn/hand

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