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Do you feel sex gets better the longer you been married or worse? Does it get better because you know what and how and when for that other person? I been married 23 years and lately it has gotten so much better. I wonder what others feel about their sex life. Oh and we have been exploring some new kinky things too that have rocked my world lately.
If you are a woman reaching/going through her "PRIME" - this can happen. It happened to me too! I only wish and regret that I did not feel THIS way - back then when he was in "HIS PRIME". I was too inhibited, had kids on my mind, would have rather ate chocolate & read a book before - but Now, Sex is #1 for me- in fact I think I have formed somehat of an addiction! Thankfully it's the top of his priority list also.
It makes a world of difference when your hormones kick in & you loose all those silly inhibitions, you discover how to communicate sexually, and try new things that you never dared explore in the past.
Not sure if you are a woman posting this or a guy !? My answer was kinda geared towards a woman.
I have been with by husband since were both 15. We didn't get married until we were 29, but we were always together from the teenage years until now. We are both 45.
Because my sex drive is much stronger now than when I was a teenager or in my 20's, we have far more sex now than 25 years ago. I can't get enough of him. I would make love twice a day, but he doesn't quite have that high libido. So we make love about 4-5 times a week.
For years my husband suffered from low testosterone, which adversely effects the libido. He is on weekly testosterone shots now and these shots make him as horny as he was at 16. Sometimes we make love 3 times in one night on the day because he needs the release after he gets the the shots.
From what I hear from my colleagues in their 40's, many of them live in sexless marriages or sex that is very rare. Long-term relationships have their ups and downs and that includes sex. In our 30's, we sometimes had sex only once a month because of his low testosterone and I wasn't that interested.
After I hit 42 or 43, my sex drive went through the roof.
I wish I had been like this in my 20's, but in those days, I had a moderate sex drive at best.
Wow - we have alot in common, we are similar age, I also discoved my sex drive in my 40's, I met my husband when I was 15 too. Mine doesn't have his Test low enough for treatment, but his is on the lower end of normal. I also wish I felt like this in my younger years , but sure enjiying it now!
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Re: My question for older married couples.
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Originally Posted by Happyquest
Do you feel sex gets better the longer you been married or worse? Does it get better because you know what and how and when for that other person? I been married 23 years and lately it has gotten so much better. I wonder what others feel about their sex life. Oh and we have been exploring some new kinky things too that have rocked my world lately.
Although I've posted this several times, I find I don't get tired of posting it .
Sex in our 20's was great!
Sex was even better in our 30's, and that surprised us a bit.
We were surprised again to find that sex in our 40's has been so much better than sex in our 20's or 30's was. We're almost through with the 40's now, and looking forward to seeing if it can still get better. Reading ThreeTimesALady sure gives us hope that it can still continue to get better .
Married 27 years, still pushing each other's boundaries, loving it more than ever before, kinkier than ever before, and looking forward to where it can go from here
Although I've posted this several times, I find I don't get tired of posting it .
Sex in our 20's was great!
Sex was even better in our 30's, and that surprised us a bit.
We were surprised again to find that sex in our 40's has been so much better than sex in our 20's or 30's was. We're almost through with the 40's now, and looking forward to seeing if it can still get better. Reading ThreeTimesALady sure gives us hope that it can still continue to get better .
Married 27 years, still pushing each other's boundaries, loving it more than ever before, kinkier than ever before, and looking forward to where it can go from here
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Re: My question for older married couples.
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kinkier?
Oh yeah. We didn't have all the ideas there were to have in our 20's by a LONG shot . When you ask that, I'm not sure if you've read some of my other posts where I'm pretty explicit or not, but yes, we still have new ideas. We discuss each other's fantasies and role play on them much more than before, we incorporate toys and other props more than before, we're more apt to start with things that some people on here have expressed is outside their boundaries ... things that we weren't ready for when we were younger ... well, maybe we were ready, but we just hadn't thought of them before .
I can be more explicit if you'd really like, and you can probably find other posts where I have been a bit more explicit (although certainly not thorough or exhaustive) but that probably gives you an idea.
For us, the boundary is that we won't bring anybody else into our relationship, and we won't really hurt each other. Within those boundaries, there's a lot of room to play.
Oh yeah. We didn't have all the ideas there were to have in our 20's by a LONG shot . When you ask that, I'm not sure if you've read some of my other posts where I'm pretty explicit or not, but yes, we still have new ideas. We discuss each other's fantasies and role play on them much more than before, we incorporate toys and other props more than before, we're more apt to start with things that some people on here have expressed is outside their boundaries ... things that we weren't ready for when we were younger ... well, maybe we were ready, but we just hadn't thought of them before .
I can be more explicit if you'd really like, and you can probably find other posts where I have been a bit more explicit (although certainly not thorough or exhaustive) but that probably gives you an idea.
For us, the boundary is that we won't bring anybody else into our relationship, and we won't really hurt each other. Within those boundaries, there's a lot of room to play.
sounds like a lot of changes to do what comes naturally.....I am my wife's vibrator....
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Re: My question for older married couples.
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sounds like a lot of changes to do what comes naturally.....I am my wife's vibrator....
I'll agree on being my wife's vibrator ... most of the time ... although using the vibrator anally while she is cowgirl ... I can't be in both places at the same time, right? I also can't give her oral sex while inside her ... I would if I could, but I'm just not that limber . Toys only come out sometimes, though. There's a lot to do without toys, too.
I'm not sure what you meant by "lot of changes to do what comes naturally."
I'll agree on being my wife's vibrator ... most of the time ... although using the vibrator anally while she is cowgirl ... I can't be in both places at the same time, right? I also can't give her oral sex while inside her ... I would if I could, but I'm just not that limber . Toys only come out sometimes, though. There's a lot to do without toys, too.
I'm not sure what you meant by "lot of changes to do what comes naturally."
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