Re: Is a lack of sex damaging to the relationship?
Isn't that like the ol' bait and switch?
Lots of crazy sex while dating, then get married and its 1 - 2x month and she considers it a chore now?
My theory is while you are dating, she didn't have you, thus the every day crazy sex, wanting what she doesn't have. Then after you got married, she now has you and the chase is over, thus no more need to have sex like before, get comfy and it doesn't matter much anymore.
Yet you want the same crazy and amount of sex like before you got married to her.
The sex should be the same before and after getting married. Kids are no excuse either. They go out to a friends house, or you get a baby sitter, bam, sexy time.
So the lack of sex is damaging to any marriage because there is no physical and emotional closeness going on. Usually a LD person would say sex isn't as important and you should love me for me, etc.