Your wording makes me wonder if you missed the real theme here.
I truly put my wife first - I try to do all the things that make her happy. And I am pretty good at them. And it is also true that we have conflict as we are both strong willed. We do not use profanity with each other - I don't say hateful things about her as a person - I will however use a very sharp tone of voice and say "such a such is not acceptable to me and I would not do it to you". And sometimes we disagree and it takes a day or two for one of us to decide to make peace.
My wife - knows that sex is a WAY higher priority to me than it is to her. So she makes it a very high priority solely for ME.
After we started a sexual relationship - which was in our mid twenties - if she had EVER said she expected WEEKS of talking / cuddling between bouts of sex - I simply never would have married her. If she had been like that - it would not make her a bad person - just not someone I could be married to. I happily give a lot in my marriage - and in exchange - there is this one thing I am totally dependent on my wife for. And she really gets it. With the huge commitment of celibacy comes an equally large obligation and responsibility to please your partner.
And I also love all the non sexual things about her. AND now at 47 I am happy to lie in bed and talk and not have sex for a day or two because my testosterone levels are way way lower. But a woman who starves her man of sex simply isn't that into him. It really is that simple.
As for LIFE happening - LOL - that is good. Thing is - ANYTHING that is truly a priority in your life you can make an hour for it 3-4-5-6 times a week.
Right now my wife's libido is zero - truly zero. Has been for almost two months. Why does she make the effort to connect with me twice a week or so? Because she is truly deeply into me. Because it is her JOB to make sure I feel loved. Just like I kept working many times because it was MY job to make sure she and the kids had no financial stress.
She knows I love her - she knows that I am making an effort to have less sex with her. She also knows that I am NOT myself after day 5 - 5th day in a row without. When first married she would laugh and say I was edgy after missing ONE night.
And I would shrug and say - all that testosterone has a benefit and a cost. If you wanted a laid back guy - you had plenty of choices.
Ok from my perspective: sure women (men for that matter) can sometimes be accused of giving a psychobabble talk show response, but essentially 'life' can and does get in the way, although some would say you have to LET it get in the way for it to make any difference.
I think unloved's point about cuddling with no expectations of sex, talking, etc. is key. The phrase 'for a while' could do with some amplification, though.......I suspect a woman might think 'for a while' could be anything from a couple of days to a couple of weeks, while a guy might think an hour would do the trick. Wrong.
As for MEM2020's little list, well fair enough it might seem that way on the surface, IF there aren't any harsh words, IF there's never any criticism, IF she can turn her heart/emotions off in order to fulfil her man's physical needs........