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Old 03-17-2010, 02:11 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Lots of discussion around this topic in other threads. I have had this fantasy in my past and it's still exciting.
Never actually did it and only used it as "fuel" during sex with exwife (welll we were married at the time ahha).
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Q1.
Do you or have you ever fantasized about sharing your lady with another man or watch her enagage in sex with another man.


Q2.
Why do you think you developed that fantasy?

Q3
Are you able to respect her boundary if she's not open to discuss it?

Q4.
Would you actually go "there" or is it simply and only Fantasy

Q5.
Would you rather someone you know or an anonymous person?


Q6.
If you would really do it, are you man enough to live with the potential outcomes (your jealousy, her falling out of love with you, her falling in love with other man)?


Q7.
Are you nuts?
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Old 03-17-2010, 02:22 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Q1.
Do you or have you ever fantasized about sharing your lady with another man or watch her enagage in sex with another man.
Yes I have

Q2.
Why do you think you developed that fantasy?
I think in my case because she was very reserved.. I developed her "alter ego" for her!! ANd she is dirty. hahaha

Q3
Are you able to respect her boundary if she's not open to discuss it?
Yes, although ex was always afraid i'd "spring it" on her I always respected and always would respect someones boundaries.

Q4.
Would you actually go "there" or is it simply and only Fantasy
I would go there with a willing partner.

Q5.
Would you rather someone you know or an anonymous person?
Someone I know (would want to know the history and control the situation. set up the rules etc. ensuring safety)

Q6.
If you would really do it, are you man enough to live with the potential outcomes (your jealousy, her falling out of love with you, her falling in love with other man)?
Yes (but would take precautions to eliminate or reduce the risk to acceptable level.

Q7.
Are you nuts?
Yes!!
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Old 03-17-2010, 02:41 PM   #3 (permalink)
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Sorry I'm already breaking the format.

I've definitely had the fantasy and we discussed it once. When we started talking about "who" we could try it with - I became jealous when my wife started naming names of real people / friends.

Haven't brought it up again, although it is still one of my favorite fantasies.
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Old 03-17-2010, 02:51 PM   #4 (permalink)
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Respecting the format now...

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Do you or have you ever fantasized about sharing your lady with another man or watch her enagage in sex with another man.

- Yes

Q2.
Why do you think you developed that fantasy?

- Fascination with a woman's ability to have sex for extended periods of time, compared to the limitations of a common man like myself. Does that make sense? Hard to explain...

Q3
Are you able to respect her boundary if she's not open to discuss it?

- Yes - she has been willing to discuss.

Q4.
Would you actually go "there" or is it simply and only Fantasy

- Only fantasy - especially given our current issues.

Q5.
Would you rather someone you know or an anonymous person?

- Not sure. Less jealousy with an unknown man, but less fear of disease with a well known friend.

Q6.
If you would really do it, are you man enough to live with the potential outcomes (your jealousy, her falling out of love with you, her falling in love with other man)?

- I've had jealousy issues just discussing it.

Q7.
Are you nuts?

- A couple of squirrels tried stuffing me in a tree yesterday...but really, I don't think this is anything unusual at all.
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Do you or have you ever fantasized about sharing your lady with another man or watch her enagage in sex with another man.
A1.
Nope. I don't think I would be able to handle it well. I stated in another thread once that I have 2 reasons for this:

1) Possessiveness. She's MY wife. Another man lays his hands on her, that man visits a hospital very shortly thereafter.
2) Insecurity. What if said other man can please her better than I can

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Why do you think you developed that fantasy?

Q3
Are you able to respect her boundary if she's not open to discuss it?

Q4.
Would you actually go "there" or is it simply and only Fantasy

Q5.
Would you rather someone you know or an anonymous person?


Q6.
If you would really do it, are you man enough to live with the potential outcomes (your jealousy, her falling out of love with you, her falling in love with other man)?
A2-A6.
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The Jury is still out on this one.
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Do you or have you ever fantasized about sharing your lady with another man or watch her enagage in sex with another man.
No.


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Why do you think you developed that fantasy?

Q3
Are you able to respect her boundary if she's not open to discuss it?

Q4.
Would you actually go "there" or is it simply and only Fantasy

Q5.
Would you rather someone you know or an anonymous person?


Q6.
If you would really do it, are you man enough to live with the potential outcomes (your jealousy, her falling out of love with you, her falling in love with other man)?
N/A

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Old 03-17-2010, 08:00 PM   #7 (permalink)
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Do you or have you ever fantasized about sharing your lady with another man or watch her enagage in sex with another man.
No. I find the idea offensive. If it were to happen and my wife not be willing, the man in question would die on the spot. If she were a willing participant, I don't imagine we'd have much to say to each other afterwards, ever again.

Rest of your questions not applicable, except:

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Are you nuts?
I don't think anyone is completely sane. If anybody was, living on this planet with other people for a few years would surely cure him of it.

The only possible exceptions I can think of are Fred Rogers (of "Mr. Rogers' Neighborhood", and Jesus.
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Lots of discussion around this topic in other threads. I have had this fantasy in my past and it's still exciting.
Never actually did it and only used it as "fuel" during sex with exwife (welll we were married at the time ahha).
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Q1.
Do you or have you ever fantasized about sharing your lady with another man or watch her enagage in sex with another man. Absolutely, fantasized about it! Many scenarios involving strangers...no friends or people I know. Both sharing her and watching her with another guy.


Q2.
Why do you think you developed that fantasy? Because I know deep down she loves the attention...and I can only take her so far before my stamina gives out. Having two of us would enable her to go for hours more than likely.

Q3
Are you able to respect her boundary if she's not open to discuss it? We've already discussed it and, in her words, it'll never happen...and if it did, she said "our relationship would probably come to an end." So, I'm respecting that (for now...who knows in a month...a year...things change, y'know?

Q4.
Would you actually go "there" or is it simply and only Fantasy: Would definitely go there. I'm totally comfortable with it. I know she's had more than her share of men in her past so it wouldn't bother me in the least to see her enjoying herself with another man or a couple of men.

Q5.
Would you rather someone you know or an anonymous person? Probably anonymous would be best. I think it would be awkward if we both knew the other guy(s) and would make for some difficulties down the road. An anonymous person would sort of be like her having a one-night stand, only I would know about it! *hot*


Q6.
If you would really do it, are you man enough to live with the potential outcomes (your jealousy, her falling out of love with you, her falling in love with other man)? No jealousy (I'm very secure that way...been burned in the past so much I'm numb to it now). I don't think it's possible she'd "fall out of love" with me...just like I'd never fall out of love with her EVER. Can't see her falling in love with another man, either. No matter the size of the **** or how good he was in bed.


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Are you nuts?
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Old 03-17-2010, 10:25 PM   #9 (permalink)
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Never in a million years would I ever entertain such a disgusting thought.

I've suffered deeply in the wake of my wife's decision to cheat for an extended time. It is an offensive notion to me to actively fantasize about something that drives such a wedge between a married couple.

Exposure to STDs, emotional confusion, and mixed loyalties?

No thanks.
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Old 03-18-2010, 08:40 AM   #10 (permalink)
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I would never let a dude bang my wife. Another chick is fine but not a dude.
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Old 03-19-2010, 10:49 AM   #11 (permalink)
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Vino63 told me to start this thread, but I just didn't get around to it. Anyway, here my answers:

1. I think about it often. Have told my wife about it. Found out in the process that she did this with her first husband many years ago. She does not want to do it again: , but she when asked if she would make out with another man in front of me (a nice start), she said she would have to think about it (still waiting).
2. I'm not sure why, just the sight of someone else pleasing her would be a real turn on to me, also having sex with her right after she has had sex with another man, is something that I have always wanted to experience.

3. Whatever boundries she set, I would definitely respect!

4. Absolutely!!!!

5. I would prefer she do it with someone we know

6. This one worries me. I would only want her to do it in front of me, and I know that women are emotional creatures, and the potential for her falling for the other guy, or prefering the other guy are there, but I really think I would be willing to risk it.

7. Must be! (see answer #6)
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Old 03-19-2010, 11:02 AM   #12 (permalink)
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Do you or have you ever fantasized about sharing your lady with another man or watch her enagage in sex with another man.
No, I have not.

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Why do you think you developed that fantasy?
N/A

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Are you able to respect her boundary if she's not open to discuss it?
N/A - it's not my fantasy.

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Would you actually go "there" or is it simply and only Fantasy
Well, the only way I would "go there" is if my lady actually said she was dying to have that fantasy - that it's on her "bucket list." I think I could perhaps do that for her, even though it's not a fantasy of mine.

I dont think I would do in marriage though. . .only a girlfriend and one I am not that serious about.

I would want a 3-some with another woman as a trade-off.

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Would you rather someone you know or an anonymous person?
Someone I know, I guess - again, not really a fantasy of mine.

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If you would really do it, are you man enough to live with the potential outcomes (your jealousy, her falling out of love with you, her falling in love with other man)?
I find this question puzzling. . .like me not liking the fact that she may fall out of love with me or in love with the other man as "not being man."

Like the only "real man" is a man who lets his woman "screw around" and indulges her every fantasy?

What kind of craziness is this loaded question?

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Are you nuts?
Maybe I am the crazy one.
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Old 03-19-2010, 11:08 AM   #13 (permalink)
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Agree - after re-reading - that Q6 sounds a bit loaded. Shouldn't have anything to do with being a "real man."

So how about - if it is something you would truly consider actually doing - are you aware of and willing to take the associated risks in order to live out the fantasy?

In my case, I get / have the fantasy, but would not be willing to risk the marriage to get the potential thrill.
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Do you or have you ever fantasized about sharing your lady with another man or watch her enagage in sex with another man.
Yes I have fantasized about sharing, but not watching. Don't think I could just sit and watch.

Q2.
Why do you think you developed that fantasy?
I think it's in part because I have desired her to be a sexual person, and that is something that only a very sexual woman would be willing to do.

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Are you able to respect her boundary if she's not open to discuss it?
We discuss it, but I would be willing if that were the case.

Q4.
Would you actually go "there" or is it simply and only Fantasy
No, I don't think I would. We both agree that she couldn't handle the emotions that would follow.

Q5.
Would you rather someone you know or an anonymous person?
I think someone we know...

Q6.
If you would really do it, are you man enough to live with the potential outcomes (your jealousy, her falling out of love with you, her falling in love with other man)?
I wont do it because I am not willing to risk what I have for the potential aftermath, which I know would be inevitable.

Q7.
Are you nuts?
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Have watched her have sex two times with good results. It is a real turn on.
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