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My wife and I recently took a vacation to Thailand and while we were there went to a massage/spa recommended by our host. It was a smaller private house and the couple we were staying with knew the owner and his wife. We had a joint massage and although we both started naked, covered with a large towel, as the husband worked on my wife he kept lowering the towel until she was completely uncovered. At first I felt a little uncomfortable but since our hosts had recommended them, I thought it was just the custom there. She was just having a deep tissue massage and as he worked on her legs, it was pretty clear that he could see between them from behind.
When I started to think about it, I found it fairly sexually arousing and actualy got an erection as his wife worked on my lower back and buttocks. When I finally had to turn over, my penis was fully erect and I was completely embarrassed, hoping that my wife would not turn to look over at me. But the wife that was doing me was completely professional and did not pay attention to it. Eventually it subsided, and I turned over again as she finished.
When my wife turned over, she was covered, and although he only lowered the towel to the tops of her breasts, he eventuall raised the lower half until her entire pubic triangle was exposed. But neither of them ever touched our genitals the entire time. My point in writing this is that I should probably asked them to keep us covered, but my erotic curiousity at having strange man see my wife nude took over. I think there must be other men out there that feel the same way, but does that make me a bad person? I don't know and am curious what others think or if others have had an experience like this.
When my wife and I were on our honeymoon about ten years ago when we were a little more adventuresome, we ordered a male masseur to come to the room and give a massage while I watched. We were just back from the pool when he arrived and my wife removed her bikini in front of him and he gave her a bath before giving her a complete nude massage. I must admit it was a turn on for me to see her oiled up with this younger guy and completley nude. We haven't done much more like that since but I still get turned on when I think about it.
There's no chance I would get turned on seeing some other dude massage my wife, especially if it's her ass, breasts, thighs, etc...
Although, my heart might pick up beats per minute causing me to rage in a furious pace..
For what it's worth I don't think it is right. I just got a massage the other day and the gal working on me adjusted the sheet over my nipples after it had moved down. I am a man BTW so it didn't bother me that my chest was exposed, but she told my they weren't supposed to expose the nipples. As for removing the blanket at any time I call BS. The blanket is there to keep the person warm and the muscles relaxed. From the sound of it the guy isn't to professional. JMO
I have been visiting a female professional masseuse in a spa for a few years. I am always naked under a sheet (but had the option to leave on as much as I wanted), but covered so that only the part of the body being massaged is exposed. When she massages the my glutes, only one side is is exposed at a time. The sheet is very carefully placed so I am covered on the other side. When I'm on my back and she's doing my legs, the sheet is arranged so I am completely covered in the genitals at all times. She is very careful to make me feel comfortable while preserving my modesty, but at the same time allowing her to give me a great massage. I've described the entire process to my wife and she's fine with this.
Well, if your wife is good by it, then it works for you. It all sounds fine but I figure I can give my husband any massage he may need and I often do just that.
It's not that I figure my husband is going to cheat and he's never given me reason to think he would. I just don't like the idea of some other woman laying her hands on uh..certain spots or even being near them. Yeah, I'm the jealous type. I'll admit it.
I see a female massage therapist weekly and am completely naked under the covers. She always has either a towel or covers over my breasts, netherregions and butt. She does, however, uncover one butt cheek at a time to really massage my glutes (a problem area for me during hard marathon training). She always gives you the option to keep as much clothing on as you feel comfortable with.
There's really no reason to have breasts, genitals or the entire butt exposed even without undergarments on. The MT should be skilled at placing and tucking the covers/towel to prevent overexposure during the massage.
I would be worried - this doesn't sound like professional behavior to me especially with an opposite sex MT.
^ Agreed.
I hope your wife tip him extra at the end for his "special attention".
As a European masseur, I can tell you it is quite normal for the client to be nude in some settings. It depends where you go. If you see a massage therapist who works in a treatment room in a gymnasium, you will be offered towels, but you may be able to request nudity. If you go to an aromatherapist however, you will be expected to keep most of your underwear on, and they will tuck the towel under your boxers/knickers to make absolutly sure there is no accidental exposure.
When people come to someone like me, who works at home, I am so used to doing people nude that I only offer towels if they come across as old-fashioned. I have towels clearly visible on the shelf, so they can always ask. But quite frankly, people like the feel of being able to relax naked in a warm room with someone running their hands all over them.
Your wife probably gets a kick out of being massaged nude. This may not be such a bad thing - she may come home horny, and expect you to deal with it If you lose your aggravated attitude, you may be in for a good time.
Masseurs are used to dealing with naked people all day long. This guy may or may not want to take advantage, you need to work out if he has the right boundaries in place or not. In the meantime... RELAX
I think its bang out of order for guys to let their wifes have these types of massages. Reverse the roles what the guys got a massage off hot half dressed girls taking pants off and massaging **** under bedsheets! how would the wifes feel. I think its disgusting. A massage with the same sex is okay but still why can't the husbands and wifes massage each other its free and it increases the relationship between the 2 better? There are online and offline courses, books etc that teach you how to massage like a pro invest in that rather than paying all that money for a 30min/1hr session.
Your wife is comfortable with the massage she is having, and you should not be interfering - you have an over-active imagination which is fantasizing all sorts of worse-case scenarios.
You are showing signs of being a control freak.
I think you should trust her completely instead of acting like a jerk.
That is ridiculous your wife must be enjoying the touch, i would never let her go near that masseur again, it might seem innocent to her but on the long run she will start having some bizarre feelings and would want to experiment, my advice is STOP HER!
What does it matter? It's likely the masseur sees nudity everyday and is not interested in looking at you wife anyway. I've been going to same masseur for a couple of years now and although I'm covered with a towel I'm sure he's seen all of me at one point. It's not something you should worry about. He's a professional. My husband didn't like me getting massages from a man at the beginning but now he's used to it. Get over it and stop wasting energy being jealous.
I visit my masseur at his private studio. He's 20, I'm in my (uhhh) late thirties. I don't think he's interested in seeing the fun bits of an older lady. I think he just wants to get the job done and not fuss with a towel. And is it so bad that it turns me on a little? My husband gets all the benefits. Are there any other men out there whose wife is regularly exposed nude to another man. How do you feel about it?
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