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Old 10-12-2013, 09:45 PM   #1 (permalink)
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So my wife wants me to talk dirty during sex, however I really do not know what she wants. She is not a real foul mouthed person and we do not have unusual sex, so what does she want? Does she want me to say things like, "Take that **** *****" or "Suck it like the little ***** you are."
Any female response would be appreciated as I am in need of opinions. She is into words and I am into the physical act. The most intense sex we have is doggystyle while I may pull her hair and slap her fine ass as I do it. So with this in mind what does she want me to say before or during? She will also make comments like....we will be having sex and one of our kids will knock on the door, and she will say..."I thought you said your wife was out of town?" My spouse is really subdued and not erotic but I think she would like something in regard to dirty talk however I know not what to do without maybe overdoing it.
What are some statements that may satisfy her during sex?
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I would start by asking her.
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Old 10-12-2013, 10:19 PM   #3 (permalink)
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Often they would like to hear you talk dirty about how they are getting you worked up and how you need them, badly and how you need to use them, that you've crossed a line and you need to do what you are going to do.

Fill in your own words, but build it around you want them, you need to f them, and you are going to take what you need and want.

Throw in a few comments about they body feeling real good and working you OP, and you've got a start.

Find a pose you like the way she looks in and tell her that she really got to you when she was doing X - for instance when she was stretched out with her arms infront of her on the bed and you could see her hips, as$ and back laid out elegantly and erotically in front of you.

Doesn't hurt to tell her that its good you didn't see her like this when you were 17 or you'd have spent that year in HS hiding a tent pole and taking care if things 3-4 times a day just to be polite in public.
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You say she is into words, while you are into the physical act. Do you say anything at all? My husband isn't very vocal, so little things go a long way coming from him. A "your so sexy" "I love your _____", little things are nice to hear. I personally don't want to be called a s**t or anything. Not my speed at all. Once he quoted a movie by saying "Take it all you dirty girl" in mid act. I stopped dead in my tracks, turned around and was like "WTF did you just really say that?". So... the right words are important. It can make or break the moment.

The comment about your "wife being out of town" makes me think she is down for some role playing. Maybe a little spice added in now and then would be fun. A wig, a little story to go with it. Learn to roll with what she says "She wasn't supposed to be back for another 3 days, be quiet, i'll get rid of her" then answer the kid and tell your "lover" you told your wife you didn't feel well so she went to the store, and you only have 20 minutes till she gets back.
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What did you say or do when she said "I thought you said your wife was out of town"?

Also, do you tell her verbally how much you desire her body, compliment her in ways that are borderline vulgar, etc? Like do you frequently say "show me" and motion to her boobs and expect her to whip up her shirt? You could start with stuff like that, if you don't already.

My husband talks to me in a sexual way, all the time and I love it. And I mean just day to day banter and talk.
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You are lucky Huzzah. I wish my wife could step outside of her box and talk dirty in the heat of the moment. I have tried it, but it is just not in her personality. I think it can be very sexy when it has an "edge" to it. Enjoy it!
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So dependant on the people involved, you need to communicate with her more to find out.

Got to say I love dirty talk, sexting etc but like a pp said it has to be about how much he wants me and how I turn him on. If he called me a **** or anything else derogatory it would be a major turn off.
It can be a very sexy and powerful feeling to hear how much you turn someone on.
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you need to f them, and you are going to take what you need and want.
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What did you say or do when she said "I thought you said your wife was out of town"?

Also, do you tell her verbally how much you desire her body, compliment her in ways that are borderline vulgar, etc? Like do you frequently say "show me" and motion to her boobs and expect her to whip up her shirt? You could start with stuff like that, if you don't already.

My husband talks to me in a sexual way, all the time and I love it. And I mean just day to day banter and talk.
Well when she said it I kinda ignored it in fear ruining the moment. I am afraid of ruining the moment by saying something that is not in the same ballpark as she is thinking. We don't talk dirty at all really. I have never even referred to her goods as a pu$$y before. Even though when she asks me what I wanna eat when we are in the kitchen...inside I am saying I wanna eat her ***** and toss her up on the counter and go to town...however I do not say it. I just say...."Well I can think of something" then I may proceed to the counter thing. I am really at a loss for what she wants. She has brought this subject up before and I have asked what she wants but she really doesn't say much but "I married you because you were the creative one" So I am stuck with my own thoughts and do not wanna turn her off by saying something like some have mentioned in this forum.
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So dependant on the people involved, you need to communicate with her more to find out.

Got to say I love dirty talk, sexting etc but like a pp said it has to be about how much he wants me and how I turn him on. If he called me a **** or anything else derogatory it would be a major turn off.
It can be a very sexy and powerful feeling to hear how much you turn someone on.
She has said things just before bending over like..."Ok show me who's the boss" so at that point as we are doin it what could I say? What am I to take from that statement?
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What are you asking us???? She is the one with the desire. ASK HER!!!
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She has said things just before bending over like..."Ok show me who's the boss" so at that point as we are doin it what could I say? What am I to take from that statement?
You are a lucky man. When she said "okay show me who's the boss" I would have started and while we were at it I would have looked her in the eyes and asked her "do you like this boss" and "so who's the boss". I use to love asking my old GF when we were doing it "where do you want me to cum" just the hear her say (in that moaning trembling voice) "in me". It's a real turn on.

It sounds to me like your wife wants to be dominated a little.
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She has said things just before bending over like..."Ok show me who's the boss" so at that point as we are doin it what could I say? What am I to take from that statement?
"I'll show you who the boss is, how's that feel. Feels awesome to me. I love the feel of your P***y.

Basically what ever is running through your head while the two of you are having sex (assuming she is running through your head) will be fine. Start mild by responding to things she is already saying. If you say something she doesn't like, make a mental note and move on. She wants you to do this and knows its not your thing. It's doubtful she is expecting perfection first time out. Be creative. I whisper things in my wife's ear while kissing her neck. I makes her crazy.

BTW I just started doing this a month or so ago because my wife complained that I was too quiet when we made love. Doing this turned something loose in my wife and sex is way better now. From what your saying about your wife, I beleive you will get excellent results.
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Even simple stuff like, "I love to f**k you. You're so hot," can put someone over the top. It doesn't have to sound like a cheap porn film. Tell her how good your d**k feels indie her wet p***y or how much her aroma and taste turns her on.
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Maybe you could ask her to show you what she means by talking dirty and that might give you an idea what she is looking for.

I wouldn't think she was looking for degradation (of course what would I know about what she wants) so I wouldn't lead with telling her to take that or calling her a ***** or anything.

You feel so good, you make me so hard, I love ****ing you, you're so wet for me, I'm going to slow stroke you, etc.

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