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What do you think when your man thanks you for sex either right after or the next day?
Seem inappropriate, like it's supposed to be a mutual exchange of pleasure, or does it make you feel good and special?
That would probably make me feel as if I was performing a service and I would find that sort of inappropriate.
But then again if he told me something like "last night was amazing" I would be pleased lol but not a "thank you (for giving me a bj (or whatever else I did))"
It would seem that wording would set the stage. Thank you for the amazing thing we did, I really needed it "...that sounds better than just "thank you" The latter may have some women checking the dresser to see if any money had been left there.
Ok, to give you a straight answer on this, and you know alot of my story from my posts etc... my husband said thank you after I gave him a BJ a few weeks ago...
All I have to say is sex is not a gift, its an act... dont thank... but praise...
If my husband thanked me for sex, I'd probably flip my lid. I don't want to feel like his past one night stands, that I'm just good for sex and not much else. But if he wants to tell me how I did this one thing that he really liked, I'd be more than happy to accept that and make a mental note. Thanking your spouse/significant other for just is just rude.
What do you think when your man thanks you for sex either right after or the next day?
Seem inappropriate, like it's supposed to be a mutual exchange of pleasure, or does it make you feel good and special?
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Originally Posted by toolate
Ok, to give you a straight answer on this, and you know alot of my story from my posts etc... my husband said thank you after I gave him a BJ a few weeks ago...
All I have to say is sex is not a gift, its an act... dont thank... but praise...
I think it depends... Sometimes I want it all to be about my partner. I want to focus on him, pay attention to every last part of him, make him relaxed, make him feel phenomenal, etc. In that instance - it is a gift. It's a gift of my time and of myself. When it's that kind of sex, I certainly don't mind hearing, "Wow, babe. Thanks! That was incredible!" It reaffirms that he understood what I was doing and that he appreciated that gift.
When my partner does the same for me - I sure as heck will thank him repeatedly...
I don't know about "thanks" (that strikes me as pretty funny!.."Send me a thank you card dear") but I do like a phone call at work the next day telling me he loves me and can't wait to see me and that last night was awesome. I do that with him as well.
I just can't see what the big deal is. I will often say thanks for the nookie baby, or he will...or yeah....I will even say thanks...now *I* can think straight (multiple O's do that for me). I don't get offended and neither does my H. We've been thru hell and back and we BOTH are thankful for every single aspect of our marriage, and make a point of saying it.
If your husband does thank you for sex, it may not mean he views you as a prostitute. It may mean that you act like it is such a major inconvenience/pain/project/chore/etc that he is thanking you for your major sacrifice.
ps- I agree, it is probably not a good move - but to assume the meaning is also not a good move
Women: Liked being thanked for sex? 
