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I was reading on another thread how a wife wrote how her husband's hairy body disgusted her and it got me to thinking -
My father taught me how to shave but of course, this is the first generation of men who are kind of expected to manscape so I am kind of learning this..
It seems like men like Burt Reynolds and Pierce Brosnan, men with definite hairy chests (and dear gawd. . .mabye a little back hair ) are becoming sex symbols of the past.
I know my stb-x had a thing for Clay Aiken (and was devasated to find out he was gay - I was like, um. . .duh!!!).
Is the new guy? Looking like a boy? Model after gay men?
I did watch Queer Eye for the Straight Guy after that and I must admit I did get some good tips on grooming for the ladies from that gay guy who was in charge of grooming the man.
Funny story. . .I actually get my back waxed every now and then (once/quarter) and I went in and the Vietnamese lady started putting baby powder on my eyebrows. I said, "Whoa! Wait a minute. . .I am here for my back!!!" LOL. . .it's not like I have Richard Nixon eyebrows or anything either.
What guys are actually waxing their eyebrows? Someone told me weight lifters do it. Are you wives actually making your husbands get their eyebrows waxed?
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My wife likes the untamed wild-man. So luckily I don't have to bother shaving/waxing, etc. If it was important to her, I would shave though. I did totally shave once on a whim and she hated it. Said it's supposed to be hairy down there and not all smooth, etc. Growing it back was a PIA!! My co-workers probably thought I had crabs for as much as I itched.
I'd prefer her to be a little womanscaped, but she doesn't want to. So, ke sera sera.
I have to say, trimming the privates makes oral a whole lot better for the woman My husband let his grow back out, I hadnt noticed bc we hadnt been having sex... now that we are intimate again I was like wow, never seen that much down there! He let me watch him trim it! It looks much better No plucking pubes off of the tongue, that is always a bonus!
Hair anywhere else.... I agree its personal preference... depends on which lady you are with at the moment since I know you are divorcing, it could be something you might not want to ask the ladies... my advice would be to trim up the privates and let the ladies guide you elewhere. If they arent into hairy arms or chest etc... and you are, they may say something or move on. Maybe your ex had a thing for boy toys? Clay Aiken, come on so gay. Not that there is anything wrong with that
I agree- I think its definitely better to be cleaned up down there.....not completely shaved though.....just take a trimmer to it and you'll be good lol...... everywhere else its preference though, I personally dont like alot of chest hair, and cant imagine running my fingers though back hair!!! But thankfully hubs doesnt have any on his back, and a little on the front, which i like.......
As for eyebrows, for the that a bit metro.....i dont think its as important as the lower regions........ definitely a nicely trimmed lower area makes things alot cleaner and fun...... i can floss on my own!!!! LMAO
Ya the 70's called and are collecting rural wild manscapes... LOL luckily my husband is a well groomed guy on his own. Honestly if his junk is trimmed short and he has used sexy body wash like that dial stuff for men then he is gettin oral for sure! LOL untrimmed below guys usually smell like urine a little and its really not sexy to me (personal opinion some chicks are into the rugged naturale). I agree that u should ask wifey what she prefers or examine her fav movie ideals to get a feel.
I think men that wax their brows are awesome it shows they care enough to look as hot as possible and what the hell is wrong with that?! a lil wax on them caterpillars will get u far HaHa! seriously well groomed brows men or women makes your eyes pop more.
i dont know why but seems like when a mans pits are shaven they stay fresher maybe because you dont have pit fros blocking your morning deod rituals.... =D im 28 btw... my mom likes the magnum pi look but none of the ladies from my generation I know of like hairy men... great topic! cheers! Posted via Mobile Device
YEah, that's me. ..the 007 look. . .now. . .where is my Playboy Model to sleep with?
I guess I don't get it - how does a waxed eyebrows make a man look hotter? I mean I totally understand not liking the Richard Nixon look where you like a handlebar out to the sides. . .but I don't know. . .I guess I don't get it.
I get everything else - the privates. . .the back. . .the arms. . .even the chest I can sort of see (although I don't wax my chest. . .you don't like hairy chests. . .then I guess I don't score)
My eyebrows are less "lush" than Sean Connery's up there. You would have wanted his eyebrows waxed? You're messing with a male icon there, LOL.
But I agree. . .I guess if I am going to go for a 28 year old woman or less (I'm not!), I had better make my visits to the Vietnamese ladies at the salon more regular.
I do like going there - they all "giggle" and say, "You handsome!" (good salesmanship, lol) But it's all women when I walk in and I must admit I feel kinda weird - like, "Oh, look, the hairy dude is here." LOL.
And no I disagree on even women and eyebrows. . .I have seen women with none and then they draw their eyebrows with a pencil or whatever. . .it's not a turn-on. And yes, to flip the topic, I want it to look like a dorito chip down there (triangle with the bottom point flattened). Maybe that's my generation (or maybe just me); I think pubic hair is a signal of sexual maturity and the opposite sexual immaturity.
It is seruiously just a personal preference. When I was growing up - hairy was IN, but I never cared for it. Me & my best friend used to talk about guys, who we thought was HOT , she loved Paul Stanley from KISS cause she wanted to run her hands through his chest, I remember telling her all the time "Ewwww", I hated all that hair! And I still feel the same today.
I have always been more attracted to the bare chest types, my husband has never shaved but naturally has little hair -probably cause he is a lower testosterone Guy. I know his almost bare chest is one of the reasons I was attracted to him. But Oh what I wouldn't give for a little more testosterone! But then he might go bald faster - I guess we can't have it all.
Just do what keeps the wife happy, nobody else matters.
But Oh what I wouldn't give for a little more testosterone! But then he might go bald faster & that would suck - I guess we can't have it all.
THIS! As a high testosterone male, I would rather have a bit less. Having a 5 o'clock shadow at noon, stinks. Also, the whole going bald thing isn't my favorite thing my body is doing to me either. As it goes from the top, it's finding itself other places.
I also wouldn't mind not being horny 24/7 for a change...
Yeah. . .right, the testosterone thing. . .I get it now. . . I think these ladies complaining about their men not wanting sex here at this forum. . .well, I bet they chose husbands who are smooth-chested, lush-full-head-of-hair Clay Aikens.
Well. . .you made your bed (ha, ha, pun intended). . .now lay in it.
With your "man".
If you had all gone for the hairy backed, hairy chested, balding, grunting apes like me, who beat their chest when they don't get sex, you'd be getting it every night.
Now, if you'll excuse me. . .I have to scratch myself, just under my arm this time.
My hubby is getting close to 50 & still has all his hair , at least that is a plus, but I do often wish his sex drive surpassed mine. Would LOVE to feel that 5'oclock shadow coming to get me randomly throughout the day. It's there but I more than not - have to work him up.
I'm not complaining though, I work him up practically daily & he never denies. It is all good. I would still choose what I have, but it would be awfully fun if he was beating his chest for me. Scannerguard, your post was very funny. Clay Aikens never did it for me though.
I was 24 before I could grov facial hair. At 55 I have four or five hairs around each nipple and my wife's pits are so hairy it looks like she has Buckwheat in a headlock! She wasn't always that way and she nairs everything off before she see's her Dr. every couple of months (?)