05-31-2010, 02:08 PM
Join Date: Nov 2009
| | Re: Nothing but Sex
It is funny, the way you described your husband was the way I was acting about a year ago, and I am a woman! For me, I think something was going on Hormonally though, I even had to see the Gyno to correct something, literally I was "obsessed" with talking about sex -what led me here - and wanting to have it every day- maybe twice. It was kinda nuts, this has calmed down some -and is a blessing really -for MY mind. I was literally undressing every man I seen out in public for a time. I really have no idea why this happened to me, but I will admit I have an "obsessive" personality, when I get interested in one subject, it is TOPS till I move on to another. It was the funnest obsession I have had, I will say that.
Is this something new, out of the blue, how your husband is acting? Does he move on from one obsession to another, kinda throwing himself into things -with GREAT intense involvement until he accomplishes what he set out to do and moves on to the next project? Or has he always been sex obsessed and it is finally wearing on you lately?
Some guys have a fantasy of wanting to see their wives with another man, not a good thing to do and the reality may change his mind real quick. I would hope he will get over this part of his obsession.
You are saying maybe the Fire is gone. Maybe he is looking for some new Fireworks himself. As we get older, we do need to spice things up. Maybe this is a Mid life crisis for him, he knows he is getting older and wants to feel YOUNG again, and wants his wife to feel that passion with him. I can honestly say I feel that was part of my problem.
For the time being, try to understand his desire for such talk, Indulge him (but not with another man I hope!) , ask what he wants from you, get to the root of why he is suddendly (if so) acting like this.
Has he recently been put on testosterone ? If so, that explains it !
I know I wanted more "dirty-flirty" talk from my husband, more initiation, I wanted to feel YOUNG again, and him to ACT young again. This may last for a season, I am sure all of this will calm in time.