Brand new here, hello.
My name's Cat, I'm a newlywed (I guess I would still count as one? Got marriage in July of last year.) I understand that sex isn't ALL THE TIME, but before we were married, it happened ALL THE TIME. Now, it seems we're married and we're both too tired/stressed/unhealthy/whatever to do it.
Some background for understanding: My husband is a software programer for a government contracted company, and he just proved himself a valuable asset. Now he's got some more work on him. He's a very ambitious 25yr old who pretty much feels like he failed at life, because what he wanted to do didn't happen. I'm 21 and still finishing up college. I'm not overly ambitious. So, we clash whenever he rants about his 'self failures'. I try to tell him it will come overtime and not over night, but it doen't help him.
So, anyway, our once awesome sex life is almost in the toilet. To help it, he brought up the idea of Tantric sex, patient and learning about each other. I'm willing to try it, problem is, I bring it up and he rejects me with a sad smile and an "I love you." I've come to associate 'I love you' with rejection.
I just need to know if there's ANYTHING that can advise me in this.