Re: wifes low / no sex drive - is my solution wrong?
kevsand718, would you please be REAL nice to your wife. Yes, I believe it would be selfish of you to accept her offer. The thing is, I can't imagine who wouldn't be selfish in that manner LOL. But I do think she is nuts to make the offer. Very considerate of her, but it's just too much to live up to. I'm not trying to predict the demands of your libido. I'm talking about the unlikelihood she will want to follow through every time. If nothing else, it will grow old for her, and she will begin to feel it a chore. I think she's sweet to offer and shows how much she truly cares for you. I just don't think she is thinking straight, I mean there are extremely few women who say "yes" every single time. So when it gets down to it, one of two things will happen: She will begin to tell you she doesn't feel like it, and you will then wonder what happened to "loves me and wants me to be happy . . . willing to do other things to satisfy my need." So will you become resentful? Or, she will do it begrudgingly because she knows she made that promise. You will probably detect she really doesn't want to (read MEM2020's post again).
I don't see any harm in being okay with it all, just please be nice to her so she remains willing, rather than obligated or resentful, when the occasions arrive when she really doesn't feel like it.
And hey, lucky you!