07-12-2010, 09:38 PM
Join Date: May 2010
| | Re: should I worry or should I go along with it
Here what I see: Unless you never told her that what she did (the pics to the other guy) bothered you (which I doubt), she knew this should/would be an issue. Therefore, her "let's play strip poker!" moment was a huge sign of disrespect for you. I look at it this way: my boyfriend and I talked a lot in the beginning, and one thing I learned is that he doesn't share (neither of us do, actually). He feels that my body, and I about him, is for him alone. My body should not be shared with another person (aside from potential childbirth and breastfeeding, of course). So, I would never suggest, nor go along with a suggestion, such as strip poker, with another person/couple. And this is without a previous infidelity. The fact that she did this with the history there, tells me there is a major problem. Whether that problem is that she wants out and won't just say it, or that she has a real problem (a sex addiction, or bipolar or something like that that might make her act differently and/or strangely), and needs some real help.
I think a serious, sit down honest discussion is needed her. A blunt statement from you that this kind of behavior is absolutely unacceptable and will not be tolerated. Take it from there to determine whether or not she needs help, and whether or not the relationship is going to work.