Re: you did it for other men, but not me?
I am going to turn the tables here. I can't imagine enjoying something in my past that I enjoyed and not wanting to do it with my fiance. She deserves far better than that. If I felt that way, I would have to guess that there is something seriously wrong with me. Further, I can't imagine not sharing something so huge with my fiance. Again, if I was to do something like that, I would have to guess that there was something seriously wrong with me. It is one of those things that you might not think about until you are actually in the situation.
In fact, this is something that hits very close to home earlier in our relationship. We got over it. I CAN say one thing though: we are now doing MORE than either of us have ever done in their past. If my fiance would have maintained her initial stance, the relationship would have broken. There wasn't any twisting of arms or anything like that. Thousands upon thousands of hours of conversation trying to understand one another. When she thought about the tables being turned, she finally begin to understand. We both also understood that we are free individuals. She has just as much of a right to not do something as I have a right to want something. This is the kind of thing that has to be worked out before making a final commitment. Two honest good people that have to know whether or not they can provide what the other needs. And neither one of us would be able to live very well thinking the other had been involved in something enjoyable that they were unwilling to share. Others may disagree. And that is fine, as long as you have a partner that accepts it. It wouldn't be me.