Join Date: May 2008
Location: south wales. uk
Re: my wife hates sex, can i turn off my libido?
u say your wife hates sex. i got that bit. and you say your sick of it and try to get it over and done with.
i think its both of you that have issues.
why dont you talk it over.
why dont you when u have sex nxt.
take your time. foreplay.
i have a high libido ( sex drive) i love sex - simple as.
hubby loves it but would happily plod on when it takes his fancy.
im afraid i get frustrated at the lack of.
so when i want it. i just start it of, i take control.
start of by kissing and then i get my way.
the way you are is the way you are.
why stop it.
i dont think of drugs to control how i feel.
how i look at this, is she carries on because she simply wants more.
i wouldnt carry on myself , if i hated sex that much. it would stop there and then.
if you feel your marriage is going downhill, pick it back up, court eachother again, what are your issues with eachother.
take a new approach, flowers, meal, hotel. dress nice, aftershave.
they always notice.
my hubby notices when i buy a new top.
maybe look at the issues in your marriage to sort them out.
but sex is meant to be fun. wether its an all nighter or a quickie.