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Okay. . .I am 41 years old, divorcing and I am back in the game officially.
I don't think I want any more kids but who knows. . .I could remarry someday and I know life is screwball enough that I could be in that situation.
One thing for sure, I don't want any more unplanned pregnancies.
So, what's the scoop on vasectomies? I am not so concerned about post-operative pain from having the jewels altered - they've done their bit for God, country and family. . .I am more concerned about libido and sexual experience.
I think Family Guy joked about it best - the main character (forget his name - i watch infrequently) goes and gets a vasectomy. Soon after, he loses his drive.
He quips:
"Ehh. When you know you are shooting blanks, what's the use?"
I know it sounds crazy but on some base level I do kind of get that joke.
I didn't notice an effect on my sex life. In fact, it can be very freeing to know you don't need any birth control and can just "go" - at least while in a monogomous relationship where you know your partner is disease free.
I'm 38 - and might find myself moving on as well - but I really don't think I want any more kids. I don't want a combo retirement / happy high school graduation party in my future household.
Only thing I would do over is to not let my wife videotape it. She was WAAAY too excited.
If you do it, follow the doc's instructions. If you take care of yourself you'll have no problems. Had a friend who - after a day - thought things were going great, so he put the bag of peas back in the freezer. Next day he was swollen and in a lot of unnecessary pain.
I'm 39 and my drive has actually increased since the procedure at 36. Like was mentioned just follow the doctors orders and realize the operation is permanent. I had that explained to me for 15 minutes from the nurses, doctor, nurses again, doctor again, etc. My doctor really questioned anyone under 40 and made sure they really wanted the permanent fix.
When you get it done, just add two or three days of true downtime beyond what the pamphlet says. I had my procedure on a Thur and spent Fri/Sat/Sun on the couch. Went back to work (office work only) on Monday, big mistake. Sitting in an office chair was no fun. Stayed home Tue and was really better by Wed.
I had mine at 38 (I"m 45 now) and my sex drive is as strong as ever. No impact on there. Probably a slight psychological one when I first had it wanting to make sure it worked still. I have two kids who are 17 and 16, senior and junior in high school, boy and girl. That's enough, I don't need to procreate anymore. Same as joelmacdad, had it on a Thursday, took Friday through Sunday off on the couch with ice. Back to work on Tuesday and since I could walk around, no issues.
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Re: Vasectomy - the real scoop guys.
Had one when I was about your age Scan. No problems. I had the suture-less procedure done which is less invasive. Other than the initial injection (Which will make your toe nails sweat) it was a lot easier than I thought it would be. Had it done on a Friday, watched football with an ice pack on Saturday and mowed the lawn on Sunday. Follow instructions and it should go pretty smoothly.
There was no decrease in libido and (According to my wife) no change in the quantity, force or taste of the ejaculate.
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Originally Posted by Scannerguard
I've heard about the "sutureless" procedure - it's just a cover-up for what they do which is punch a hole down there, right?
Actually the punch technique is a more current form of the procedure than the suture-less I had. And might be even less invasive. The one I had did require two very small incisions. The vasa deferentia are drawn out and a section is cut out. The vasa leading to the penis are cauterized to make sure no sperm gets through then returned to the inside of the scrotum. The incision is simply small enough that it doesn't require stitches. In the punch technique I believe the severing and cauterization all takes place inside the scrotum.
Either way I have no regrets in doing it and never had any side effects. Other than spontaneous sex with my wife any where, any time and without the need for any protection.
From a womans point of view ...do it , i have a house ful of children and id love nothing more then for my hubbie to be brave enough to have it done ....
i mean how much can it really hurt ???
I had one and no issue or effect. Just make sure your goal is no more pregnancies PERIOD rather than no UNPLANNED pregnancies as you mentioned. Especially coming out of a marriage gone wrong, you might have regrets in the future. This is the case for me personally.
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i mean how much can it really hurt ???
A lot less than child birth!!!
Hubby hasn't come round yet huh, HD? Keep working on him. Over the course of my life I've been "racked" dozens of times with bicycle spills, base balls, soccer balls, practical jokes and once accidentally by my wife when messing around in bed. They all hurt ten times as much at the V did. Good luck.
Vasectomy - the real scoop guys. 
