08-14-2010, 12:17 AM
Join Date: Aug 2010
| | Can you teach a man to tease?
Next to some of the other issues raised here, this is really minor. I'm just trying to build on what's already a good relationship.
The actual sex is good to great and we connect well physically. My partner catches on to what I like, and I'm not shy about letting him know he's doing the right thing. Sometimes this makes for spectacular sex...
It can also create tedious foreplay. He likes to do the things he remembers me enjoying! And I'm not someone that always appreciates getting everything I want all at once, right up front!
I'm sure I'm not explaining this well, especially without getting graphic.
I have tried demonstrating on him (a handful of extreme examples, also routinely in small "Nope, not yet" gestures) and I've tried gently directing his attention to other areas. I can tell this gets him totally confused.
This isn't his personality. He will wait, slow down, gentle, NOT gentle, whatever. Can I show him that what feels good right now would feel amazing after a little more anticipation?
Again, I'm not complaining. Just wouldn't mind adding another element...