I posted this thread in another category before realizing it was probably more appropriate to post here so I will put it here.
I am a newly wed of only 2 months and have been in a distant relationship for the duration of most of my entire relationship with my now husband. In less than a week I will be moving to be with him. This will be the first time we will live together. My biggest fear is a matter of intimacy. When we are intimate it is amazing for both of us.
My biggest fear is getting pregnant, now that we will be together on a day to day basis that is more chances of us having sex more often which increases the possibility of pregnancy. I have so much I want to do with my life from a professional and educational standpoint, a child would not be in my best interest for many years. I have taken precautions to prevent pregnancy (i.e. birth control) but as we all know, there is no surefire birth control besides abstinence. As a married women, I really don't think abstinence is possible....and this would be a surefire way down the road of an unhappy marriage. I have so much anxiety about getting pregnant I fear it may interfere and start ruining my sex life.
Has anyone else had such an extreme anxiety about this? Also, I am very fearful of the sex loosing the "spark" like what I hear happens to so many married people.
What advice does anyone have about how to maintain intimacy in a marriage, what is the best "balance" of not too much and not too less? Do any women have advice about this anxiety I have been feeling?
I am a newly wed of only 2 months and have been in a distant relationship for the duration of most of my entire relationship with my now husband. In less than a week I will be moving to be with him. This will be the first time we will live together. My biggest fear is a matter of intimacy. When we are intimate it is amazing for both of us.
My biggest fear is getting pregnant, now that we will be together on a day to day basis that is more chances of us having sex more often which increases the possibility of pregnancy. I have so much I want to do with my life from a professional and educational standpoint, a child would not be in my best interest for many years. I have taken precautions to prevent pregnancy (i.e. birth control) but as we all know, there is no surefire birth control besides abstinence. As a married women, I really don't think abstinence is possible....and this would be a surefire way down the road of an unhappy marriage. I have so much anxiety about getting pregnant I fear it may interfere and start ruining my sex life.
Has anyone else had such an extreme anxiety about this? Also, I am very fearful of the sex loosing the "spark" like what I hear happens to so many married people.
What advice does anyone have about how to maintain intimacy in a marriage, what is the best "balance" of not too much and not too less? Do any women have advice about this anxiety I have been feeling?