WTF??? Dude unless u r both old & can't 'get it up no more' there is no reason good enough, for u as a married couple, not be sharing intimacy! What the hell happened? U got seperate bedrooms??? No man is an island (or woman) OUCH!!!! Listen i fought tooth & nail to make my husband understand that i would not stand for being treated like a 3rd wheel after our son was born, it was like he had lost his loving feeling & the man that used to make me feel on top of the world everyday had fanished, that i would stand it no longer & after 2 years & me still lving & wanting my husband i eventually told him that i had wasted enough time, trying to make him understand that i needed to be loved, to be shown tenderness, to told once in awhile i looked great, shown tenderness, patience & tolerance, i could even recall when ladt he said he loved me!!!! Enough was enough i wanted a divorce asap'cause i am worthy of love n affection etc... And time waits for no man i told him i felt that i would b happier on my own, anyway we talked & for once he listened... He did not just change his behaviour for 2 weeks, as so many times before, he is going 6 months strong, this change in him has softened my heart too, & it is exciting for me to see him show an interest in me, to take my opinions into account, i too needed to refresh my approach as it took some time for me to trust his actions etc... To let go of the hurt of rejection & to embrace our renewed interest in another, this is alot of work... We now have sex every Saturday Night, & when that time goes we make ourselves all nice, fresh, clean, slighty perfumed i put on something sexy & believe it or not we have wonderful glorious sex as if it's nothing we ever felt before, & oh those delightful little battery **** rings r just the best thing to enhance any labido, lol