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Old 09-17-2010, 10:57 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Default Any men have a hard time reaching orgasms?

I am curious if there are any men who have had problems reaching orgasms?

My husband who is in his early 50's started having this problem a couple of years ago. He has an erection and is able to perform but sometimes he just can not go over the edge. Or sometimes he has what we call a dry orgasm - where it feels like a small orgasm but no squirt. Any advice.

He has been checked out medically and the doctors say he is fine. Is this something that happens with age?
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Old 09-18-2010, 12:58 AM   #2 (permalink)
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Dunno what to tell ya mary. The only time I have "trouble" orgasming is when the Mrs. and I have sex too much for too long (more then 5 days in a row, 2X per day, etc). It then takes me progressively longer and longer to the point it's just not "fun" anymore.

Other then those times, I'm pretty regular via the amount of time it takes.
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Old 09-19-2010, 11:45 AM   #3 (permalink)
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Default Sort of, not a problem

I'll step up to the plate and say that I have trouble reaching full orgasms since I started a medicine that improves my walking. It has been on the market since April or May, it is not an antidepressant. The medicine is Rx, dispensed only by neurologists at this time.

In return for not having full blown (sorry) orgasms, I am much more sensitive across my entire body; nibbling, biting and caressing body parts other than my penis causes a lot of intense mini-orgasms and I'll stay hard for > 30 minutes, sometimes an hour while receiving a BJ. There's also a possibility I'm having reverse flow where seminal fluid goes into the bladder, not a dangerous condition.

All in all this is a lot of fun, a tradeoff I'm happy to accept.

Wish I knew what would happen if we ever have intercourse, but I think I'll be gone long before my wife recovers from whatever health issues she has dealt with for over two years.

I believe that taking longer to orgasm is associated with men growing older - I'm 61.
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Old 09-19-2010, 12:02 PM   #4 (permalink)
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Age could be a factor.

Is this situation true for all sexual things he does with you and alone?
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Old 09-20-2010, 03:04 PM   #5 (permalink)
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Hi Mary-My man has a lot of trouble in this dept. For about the past yr. He is 45 and an alcoholic. Won't go to a doc, so sex ain't all that great for him, and I feel like it may be me even though he claims not.
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don't hold me to this...but I read taking Zinc supplements will increase the semen volume....I started a few days ago and my wife who doesn't know anything about me doing this stated last night that "you let out ALOT".... might want to try it...
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Old 09-20-2010, 03:34 PM   #7 (permalink)
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I have heard this happens with age. It definately takes allot more work to get me "over the top" as you put it.

The important thing is to not make a big deal of it. He is probably enjoying it regardless or he would likely avoid sex. A man's ability to perform is part of him being a man. Let him know it is no big deal to you. Again, he probably loves pleasing you and who are you from denying him that priveledge/pleasure. Regardless if results in him "completing". Take advantage of the 1,2 or 3 times a night if he is up for it. Make it a positive. Many wives would be jealous.

If he really needs a "release" you may want to see if one of those plug in toys would work on him. You may also want to try some foreplay on him. I know when I am aroused/teased for a while i develop a quicker "triger".

Good luck.
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Old 09-22-2010, 10:23 PM   #8 (permalink)
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Thanks everyone!

I don't make a big deal about it! It has made us more adventurous in finding ways to help him go over the top. It usually takes more vigorous alternatives rather than vaginal penetration. He seldom is able to cum inside of me anymore. I miss that. I am not frustrated as he makes sure to take care of me.

He is not on any medications. He is pretty healthy, about 20 lbs overweight, doesn't smoke or drink.

A lot of foreplay does not help - it always seems to take a lot of effort no matter what. Honestly - I don't think early 50's is that old. Will it get worse?

Guess it's a good thing we are empty nesters and have more time on our hands. lol
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I get very hard when I touch my wife's naked body.We masturbate each other. After five minutes she asks me to enter her. After another ten minutes she orgasms. I can't take my eyes from her face as she comes. I don't come. After a while I become aware my weight on her is making her hot and uncomfortable. I withdraw. She masturbates me some more. Her hand gets tired. I masturbate while looking between her open legs. Sometimes I come; often not. I am still hard though. In the bathroom I fantasise about a group of friends we sometimes go on holiday with. There are three unattached women. I wonder if I could visit them all in the night and satisfy them before I would either come, or drop with exhaustion. I am 68 years old, so it's possibly ageing. I don't worry about it. It's no problem as long as I can watch my wife's face as I give her pleasure.
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Old 01-02-2013, 06:31 PM   #10 (permalink)
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Its takes me lomer as I age and sometime I don't orgasm.

I'm 46 and in good health HWP. growing old is a bi*ch.
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Old 01-03-2013, 06:19 AM   #11 (permalink)
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It not only for women so get a hitachi magic wand [LUBE IT UP AND HIM] and play with it on him until you know what works and where usually the head with pressure and of course use it on yourself .

You can have intercousrse for awhile,then [HJ/BJ ] until you get tired and finsih him off with the wand]
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I've had hard times reaching orgasms, even keeping it up from time to time with my wife (she was rather demanding in the bedroom). I resorted to tuna cans for the protein rush, it helps for some reason. Protein helps heal/rejuvenate I guess.
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Old 01-03-2013, 08:52 AM   #13 (permalink)
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I am 58 and in good health (not overweight, run 3X a week, normal BP, etc.) and I find that I take longer than I used to. My wife is fairly quick, so she usually goes first then we use a position that is good for me. There have been occasions that I have not been able to go. I really feel that, as a circumcised male, the sensitivity of the glans has diminished over time. Recently I have been doing research on foreskin restoration and have begun a program to accomplish this. (If curious, Google NORM). I am beginning to restore the sensitivity only after one month. The only way I can describe it is the difference between using a condom and not using a condom.
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Here we go!

I am 30 years old and sometimes will have this issue. It can be caused from a number of things but mainly it happens because of the medication I take. I am horney as hell, hard, pre cum flows, but no big pop. I feel like I want to but my penis is just numb and I have a hard time getting over the edge.

This will also happen if I have too much sex too fast as an above poster said but my wife and I have not done that since we first met. (I wish!)

It can also happen to me if I sense that my wife is not enjoying the experience. Sometimes my wife will have sex with me to appease me. Basically letting me go to town on her while she lays there and waits for me to finish. I am not a big fan of this and often because I feel pressured to finish I cannot. It's basically like she is just waiting for me to burst, like watching a pot of water start to boil. I can't do it under pressure.

I would imagine his issue though is age, I do know that with age it can become harder and harder to go. There are also some instances where I just cannot get off too, like hand jobs will never get me off unless I do it to myself, blowjobs are hard too but possible, sex is really one of the only for sure ways for me to pop.

Hope this helps a little!
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I am 58 and in good health (not overweight, run 3X a week, normal BP, etc.) and I find that I take longer than I used to. My wife is fairly quick, so she usually goes first then we use a position that is good for me. There have been occasions that I have not been able to go. I really feel that, as a circumcised male, the sensitivity of the glans has diminished over time. Recently I have been doing research on foreskin restoration and have begun a program to accomplish this. (If curious, Google NORM). I am beginning to restore the sensitivity only after one month. The only way I can describe it is the difference between using a condom and not using a condom.
I have not gone that route yet but will consider it. I decided to break with that barbaric tradition and not circumcise my boys. It might not make much of a difference when they are 20, but they will appreciate it when they older. Most people just can't get it through their heads that it is there for a reason and have been conditioned to believe it is more aesthetically appealing without it.

You can tell them 75% of the nerve endings are located in the for skin and they just don't care. How many billions does big pharma make each year off this travesty ?

Hopefully one day it will require informed consent.
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