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friendly 10-07-2010 12:36 PM

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Originally Posted by nice777guy (Post 192409)
Let her use the butt plug on you to show her that it won't hurt.

I agree!
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marcopoly69 10-07-2010 12:37 PM

Re: Just got a dildo and a butt plug - how do introduce them to my wife
 
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Originally Posted by greenpearl (Post 192464)
:):):):):):):):)

OK. I won't get mad if you listen to me and don't push her too much. Because I can just imagine her frustration if you bring this up again. I am very imaginative, you know that!

In Chinese, we have a saying: you want to do it faster, actually you can't get there.

Please just take it easy, NICE GUY just gave you some good advice. Wait for the time when you are both horny, and everything just comes out naturally.

Last night my husband wanted to put his finger into my axx before I had his toy, I just got nervous and told him no. And he didn't proceed. But after he put his toy in my puxxx, he just put his finger into my axx naturally, I really enjoyed it. Sex is not only about one person's enjoyment, sex is about both. If she feels comfortable, then do whatever you want, if she doesn't feel comfortable, then it is not a good idea to push it on her. I am adventurous, but I don't like to see dildos or any plastic toys. My husband's toy and finger are the things I like! They are smooth and meaty feeling. You know, MEATY, not PLASTICY!

I understand greenpearl but aren't you closing some doors?? without trying them?...imagine if in the middle of a sex session, you finished and your H wants you to finish him with a BJ...wouldn't be nice if you still horny and with bit of stimulation may arrive to another orgasm to have something that can bring it to you?? - that is the case of my wife since she only orgasms from vaginal penetration...hel clit does not provide the level of desire to allow her to finish like this...so I thought, if what I want is to give her the best possible time of her life, wouldn't be nice if after she is done with her first orgasm (she is being pretty consistent in having two everytime we are together), that she can provide me with a beatiful full of excitement BJ?? Last night was pretty wild in the way she behaved and how aggressive she was....so in my mind I hope that some day (not today not tomorrow, when she is in the mood) that while she gives me the BJ (after she already had the first orgasm and knowing that she is pretty wet and horny) that I would use the dildo to keep her going while she does to me?? - imagine how she would eat my thing!!! - only thinking about made me hard! - ups sorry...anyway, I'll be a good husband ..promised!

marcopoly69 10-07-2010 12:41 PM

Re: Just got a dildo and a butt plug - how do introduce them to my wife
 
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Originally Posted by Idontknownow (Post 192478)
All I wanna know is...what kinda dildo? We got this really expensive one with some rotating bead thingies inside and OMG did that sucker HURT! I sure hope you picked a nice one with her comfort in mind lol.

As for the butt plug...I don't even know how to introduce myself to the one I got and it's little LOL!

It is a decent looking 5.5 inches long penis with a decent gird. To be honest with you it is pretty much like mine. - haven't opened the package yet though.

friendly 10-07-2010 12:59 PM

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Originally Posted by marcopoly69 (Post 192459)
Thanks for your perspective....to all the ladies...I do have bounderies and I do respect my wife......I have noticed, however, some moments where we try to do different things that I just can't keep giving her pleasure because I just physically can't...so the idea of a dildo (I got one similar to mine - 5-6 inches) and the whole idea is that if she is very hot (and already had an orgasms) that may be (we've already discussed and she say that was ok) she could finish me off with a BJ - so since she, at that point is very wet, fingers don't do much so the dildo...at the end of the day is about giving her pleasure while she pleasure me....but with patients and respecting her whatever she says....I know everyday she feels more comfortable...

It's weird. After women had theirs off, do we still need a tool for more pleasure? I would like to see more comments from women? For me, I would only use a dildo for getting myself off when my husband is away. After it gets off, I would throw dildo aside. I don't think your wife really cares about a dildo unless she's horny without you by her side. She might need it for her own fun.
The butt toy is good if she loves lots of anal sex, in that case, she might need that toy.
Women need sex toys when they're alone without a man.
When it comes to make love, toys are something extra that shouldn't be focused on. You want her to focus on the pleasure from you not from toys.
I think you watch so much pron that you have so much fantasy.
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Idontknownow 10-07-2010 01:07 PM

Re: Just got a dildo and a butt plug - how do introduce them to my wife
 
I like to have more then one orgasm usually. I like to have a clitoral orgasm first, then if we go on to a BJ I like for him to play with me with his fingers and often give him a flashlight to watch(yah know when light is dim or candles and all)...it's a turn on for me to give him a BJ while he watches me and himself playing with me. I like switching positions frequently and going from intercourse to oral and back and allot of times want intercourse while giving oral.

So....I guess as a woman this fits with my fantasy and does turn me on. Time to go shopping!

friendly 10-07-2010 01:11 PM

Re: Just got a dildo and a butt plug - how do introduce them to my wife
 
I think I would appreciate my husband buy me toys for my own use. Not for me to use them on him or for him to use on them me.
Sisters, how do you think? If your husband is hot and able to satisfy you. Do you need a dildo? I guess If I love anal sex, probably yes. If you think 1 fingers not enough for your wife, you can add up more fingers. Don't you think sometimes 3 fingers together look bigger than a penis?
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Idontknownow 10-07-2010 01:17 PM

Re: Just got a dildo and a butt plug - how do introduce them to my wife
 
Hey! My husband does satisfy me with his own uhm (whatever you call it on here)...he just doesn't have two lol So I can't give a BJ and get it from him at the same time.

For me it's about variety not just that he can get me off any time he wants. He can, but some times I want something else.

friendly 10-07-2010 01:18 PM

Re: Just got a dildo and a butt plug - how do introduce them to my wife
 
Ok now I probably get what your fantasy is... You want to see a dildo in her while eating your thing... Try it, I think it should be fun if your wife needs 2 orgasms and it's something new to me... Hahaha, you watch lots of pron and learnt this idea from pron stars?
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Idontknownow 10-07-2010 01:21 PM

Re: Just got a dildo and a butt plug - how do introduce them to my wife
 
Are you talking to me or marcopoly??

If so I am the wife lol. I have watched porn a couple times but I have always liked this. I have always been obsessed with giving BJ's....just about as far back as I can remember.

friendly 10-07-2010 01:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Idontknownow (Post 192507)
Hey! My husband does satisfy me with his own uhm (whatever you call it on here)...he just doesn't have two lol So I can't give a BJ and get it from him at the same time.

For me it's about variety not just that he can get me off any time he wants. He can, but some times I want something else.

Good to hear. It's time for you to go shopping :)
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friendly 10-07-2010 01:26 PM

Re: Just got a dildo and a butt plug - how do introduce them to my wife
 
An idea just cross my mind, if the wife loves anal sex, the husband can work on it meanwhile use a dildo in her pxxxy? How does that sound marcopoly?
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Idontknownow 10-07-2010 01:28 PM

Re: Just got a dildo and a butt plug - how do introduce them to my wife
 
I think you may get his head to explode or at least get him to pass out at that idea, Friendly lol

;)

friendly 10-07-2010 01:32 PM

Re: Just got a dildo and a butt plug - how do introduce them to my wife
 
I had a butt vib. We bought together in a toy shop and we used it only once- on him...lol, then we never touch it ever since and now it's forgotten in somewhere.
We went again to toy shop and bought one hot sex oil and a cxxk ring. Never try them. Just wasted money.
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friendly 10-07-2010 01:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Idontknownow (Post 192517)
I think you may get his head to explode or at least get him to pass out at that idea, Friendly lol

;)

lol, it just came cross my mind... It should be fun!
Have you tried out anal sex? I think many husbands would love to try that stuffs. If a man knows how to do it slowly and carefully without hurting the wife. He would send her to haven. So maybe that's also a good idea for him to make use of the toys.
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Idontknownow 10-07-2010 01:47 PM

Re: Just got a dildo and a butt plug - how do introduce them to my wife
 
We have tried, and failed pretty bad lol!

I got a really slender butt vibe (no idea what else to call it). We are gonna try again once he's back from this deployment and then move up to real anal sex. It's his thing, not mine. If it were me I probably wouldn't go there but I am fine with trying again.

Agreed, GENTLE is the key.


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