marcopoly69

To everyone out there, I keep getting a vibe from the ladies suggesting that men should not expect their wives to become porn stars in the bedroom when for a men would be heaven on earth....don't understand why shouldn't be the goal in any marriage....to enjoy your intimacy the to max....if you are happy in your life and really love your wife / husband, why don't make your sex live unbelieveble!!... to me, this is it...one life, don't stop or quit from trying to experience the most enjoyable and intimate thing you can have with your partner....go at it like the world is going to end....if you don't feel like it, may be you are not in love anymore.....what do you think?...should woman make peace with the fact that they need to become pros in the bedroom and see how that may make their lives better with their husband, rather than trying to have any control of the relationship by not having sex or great sex which in turns would make their husband take their fantacies to another place?

OhGeesh

It's all opinion though!! I think very much like you in the sense that I'm totally into my wife, love her more now than ever, I'm a team player with the kids, chores, I am the breadwinner, workout, good shape.......etc etc. Yet our sex drives are very different.

While my wife has show brief signs of being the "porn star" in the bedroom that's all they are brief signs........like commercials not the regular programming. Like any man will agree when she is in "porn star" mode it's more like holding on for dear life :-)

We had a long talk about this two nights ago and for her it feels like pressure! The pressure to perform "Am I doing what he likes etc" She said "You want me to be this sex freak and I'm just not.......at least not often :-)" The other pressure comes from knowing that I want sex everyday........she says "Often I want to just sit and cuddle, hold, watch TV, but I know I can't touch you and flirt with you without it having to lead to sex......I feel stuck" I'm trying to be more patient and not always making moves that lead to sex without clear green lights.

While people like me and maybe you would want it all!! The foreplay, the caressing, what I call the 5 course meal sex, my wife just doesn't need that very often.

While it's hard for me to understand because I want the opposite I just have to understand that is how she is and I cannot change her desire.

While our sex life is good 2-3 times if averaged it comes in spurts and that awesome 1-1.5hr long candle light freaky sex is maybe once a month.

Wish you the best of luck maybe you and your wife will find it.

greenpearl

Who said that you can't make your wife a porn star in the bedroom? If she wants it, go for it. But the problem is your wife, not us. For us, you can be her stud, she can be your whxxx. As long as you and your wife agree with it. If she can't serve like a porn star for you right now, then you work on it and wait for her to change.

I am a porn star for my husband. I do my best!

okeydokie

for alot of women its just a matter of unlocking the secrets when it comes to what they will do in the bedroom. something really turns her on, i mean bigtime, you just have to find it and get her to drop the walls. and that, i will admit, can be very difficult.

unbelievable

To some sick, twisted minds, expecting any sexual activity in any form from a marriage partner constitutes wanting a "porn star".

malmale

greenpearl, u r exceptional!

MotoDude

Ha! Good subject, I can only dream and envy to see many members here posting up great bedroom story. Some wives will not open up and hold back as it your punishment, unfortunately, mine think it's discussing.

marcopoly69

That's because you already dealt with your demons and learned to feel comfortable with allowing yourself to feel horny and adventures...good for you!!!...but there are other women that just can't find in them to relax and enjoy sex to the fullest...why?? if everyone has the potential, because I think they have not dealt with their own demons....to my wife I told and finally she understood that I cannot go longer in our relationship if I am not to receive the same I give....I just can't work feeling neglected...and that's the problem with a lot of women that you don't understand what you are missing because you don't want to grow in the sex department...if you keep on doing the same, I am telling you your husband will keep fantasizing, watching porn, masturbating, going to strippers, and or will not give you the closeness and level of connection that would've made you feel like life is worth living.....

marcopoly69

I agree....it requires time, patient and a lot of love....but to improve it, you have to keep at it....communicating what else would make you happy and why?? although, my wife is not very visual or communicate back to me the way I would really like, I have to concentrate on the positives things of our relationship but it is also important to make sure you tell her every week how important is for both to evolve and change for the better in the sex department, if not, you will lose it!! - we don't stay healthy for ever....

marcopoly69

What are you saying??...that wanting to enjoy what God gave you and enjoy it with your heart full of love....and being able to see how your wife becomes the object of all your desires and as a result the only woman you think about all day....how do I make her happy....Sunday morning, I went outside pick a few fluwers and put them in her breakfast tray....she was so happy and kiss me and hug me - no sex related activity what so ever.....see?? that's what happen when you take care of your husband and all his primal instincts, we become your object of desires as all the love you showed us in bed is returned to you in the forms you most enjoy it....love love love....

Idontknownow

I'd rather be the porn star then have him go looking at other porn stars

But just like porn stars I reserve the right to specialize. I don't do gang bangs, I'm not a dominatrix and I am not gonna jack up my face or inflate my boobs for some extreme ideal. I'm a real woman who likes to get her freak on and please her man hehe.

greenpearl

My husband doesn't watch porn anymore because the quality of porn isn't that great.

He hasn't masturbated for months since he is quite satisfied from me. He is happy when my period comes, it means he can rest for a few days.

He always tells me how important it is for a women to satisfy their men sexually. He doesn't have this problem, he is thankful that his wife is this ****ty.

greenpearl

We are high quality ones, not those cheap ugly things.

marcopoly69

That's exactly what I am talking about....to me is about beautiful love making that most of the time is just passion and desire, but once or twice a week, becomes special with possibilities.....is about giving your wife back massages, follow but other massages and just do as much as you want that don't cross the line of what it means loving someone with all your heart and be faithful and helpful......to me the whole idea is to allow her to feel free and desire and loved.....she needs to understand that we are in this together and that enjoy your husband body and let him eat you alive may be one of the best experiences of your life...but you need to make peace with the fact that something needs to change in your head!!!...talk to your husband and ask why you cannot have the great sex and connection that comes with it??

marcopoly69

If we were to concentrate in how to make us happy with all our strength, things would be so much nicer around us....when I see a couple where the husband to open the door for the woman or does not treat her with the kind of love and consideration that I would use to treat my wife, I know, they have not having great sex...is a must...if you are having great sex and more.......then, I ensure you your husband will be another man....if not, he does not love you!...our hearts are connected to ours penises....