marcopoly69

I am still bothered by women in this forum (with the exception of greenpearl) that don't understand that not wanting to give thier husband all what they want at least from time to time, would never allow them to have the kind of connection that a men can have with a woman when this has fullfilled all his fantacies or needs. If women think that this shouldn't be, then you have to also admit that you'll never be able to experience your man looking at you and thinking oh my god, thank you for this angel that make me feel this way.....if you don't try to please your husband or suprise him, he will recent you always....even if he says otherwise, he'll masturbate or wach porn or something to deal with his unfullfilled desires...now, didn't you, when getting marriage, said that would do your very best to make the love of your life happy??...you have the power, to make your man lose wait, work harder, be a better gentleman, etc....the only thing you need to do is to find in yourself a way to surprise him with the very thing he is dying for.....comments?

Idontknownow

I didn't hear any other women say they didn't surprise or try to please their husbands.

Some of us do all within our power.

Like I said before, I draw the line at gang bangs and beating him with a paddle (neither of which he wants). Some people don't wanna be **** on, pissed on, made to act like a blow up doll, talked to like they are pieces of trash. Some men like sick things, those men don't deserve women who will put forth all the effort.

You want all or nothing. Thats unrealistic, thats not a marriage. Thats what prostitutes are for. To service low life skum sucking sicko's who look at women like servants to do with as they will and demand to be serviced.

If my fantasy was to have sex with another man and it made my husband uncomfortable (which I can guarantee it would) I wouldn't want it. Why? Because my love is greater then my lust and that is the compromise that is most satisfying for me. We are people with thoughts and feelings and have desires just as sure as we have aversions. We are not animals to be driven by our baser natures. I would not want to live with the guilt of hurting my partner simply because it felt good.

stumblealong

WOW! Fulfill HIS fantasy! All I ask is he stop drinking one night and maybe he will get a boner and we could actually have sex for once! Sorry, Like my post says I'm cranky!

malmale

something could be very wrong if he prefers booze over ur boobies...

Idontknownow

OMG....are you my husband? Thats his favorite word hehe

malmale

darlin', i aint gonna cross the 7 seas to get a boner!LOL

nevertheless, try to spice things up, see what excites him...

Idontknownow

What does that mean?

malmale

what i mean is that stumblealong can try to find something exciting so that the hubby will stop his booze and at least pay more attention to her

Idontknownow

oooh..thought you were talking to me. I was like...he's closer to your part of the world and gets a boner whenever we talk lol Not much I can do after that for a few more months. FML.

greeneyeddolphin

It's unrealistic to expect that your wife will fulfill every single fantasy you have. Just like men, there are some things that women just don't want to do - whether it's lack of interest in the act, disgust by the act, whatever, it doesn't matter.

You need to respect that she doesn't want to do whatever it is you want her to do. If you continue the attitude you seem to have right now, not only will you not get this fantasy you're after, but you'll lose what you do get from her.

I will do almost anything to make my boyfriend happy, sexually, emotionally, any way possible. But there are still limits, and he respects them. Just as he will do almost anything to make me happy, but he has limits, and I respect them.

nice777guy

Everyone has limits.

stumblealong

His hot rod in garage, his beer drinking buddies is what excites him these days. I've tried spicing things up in the past..done with it.

I agree with atruckersgirl... if his fantasies are too far out for her then boundaries should be respected and accepted. Yes, you should try to make the other person happy, but if it makes her uncomfortable, yet you push for it anyway, do you really love her...or are your sexual fantasies more important?

stumblealong

An example: I have a fantasy about being with a man who can actually 'get it up' This is a strong fantasy, so since he loves me so much like he says he does, he should let me go find that man to fulfill my fantasy. Right? NOT gonna happen! Once again the crankiness coming out! Sorry.

malmale

have u thought about swapping? have a look at this article

Responsible Nonmonogamy

nice777guy

What if your wife's fantasy is to watch you get gang-banged in the ass by a bunch of midgets wearing bigfoot costumes?

No one's ever died from having anal sex - and you love her, right?

Oh yeah - and she wants to videotape it also...just to have for later...