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I think there is indeed a double standard when it comes with sex toys. Yes it's true that women have a much larger option when it comes to toys then men.
I once thought it would be ok for the husband to try this Japanese penis toy that he's been reading about. It's like a fleshlight. But i was wrong. After he started using it, it became obvious to me that he starting struggling with real sex with me. He was over using it. I tasted plastic everytime i went down on him (gag). Then there was the excessive use of porn (hey gotta have visual simulation right) that was when our relationship and sex life went down hill.
Don't get me wrong, i have toys too. But i have self control and know when to stop. I also prefer the real thing over the fake. But the husband on the other hand wasn't so.
I eventually throw it out. But our marriage is still on the rocks as his porn and masturbating still persists. But that's another story.
So is it ok for a guy to have a toy? Yes, sure. But if you let it take over your sex life then mind as well divorce. Why would he need a real woman when all he needs is a fake puss.
Sorry Azn.
So - was the problem really the toy? Or the porn and masturbating? Almost sounds like the toy just increased the problem - but wasn't necessarily THE problem - right? Just asking...
The "real doll" reeks of effort. I would have to pick it up and get it into position, after the deed is done I would have to clean it up and pick it up to put it away. Really the only time I would probably use such a thing is when I'm drunk. That means I would pass out afterwards and have a dried mess to clean the next day. What would I use to clean it? A bottle brush?
So - was the problem really the toy? Or the porn and masturbating? Almost sounds like the toy just increased the problem - but wasn't necessarily THE problem - right? Just asking...
I don't know. Atleast i didn't care that he go to his computer room and did his thing (i know what he was doing) back then but i guess the problem started when he started to struggle when we had sex. Know that i gave birth to 3 kids the natural way and i have to admit that i am not a tight as i used to me. I cannot compare to the tightness that a toy made to get men off is. Just as he can't compare to a very large and thick dildo. Anyway, i have been doing kegels for over a year now and have found it helped. But back to the problem. I noticed he started to struggle when having sex and because of the toy, he started masturbating more then usual. Then came the porn because like i said, visual stimulation. The breaking point came when we agreed that he stop use of the toy on weekends and save those day for me. I was giving my baby a bath and afterwards while cleaning up, i found his toy underneath his computer. I was extremely disappointed that he could not even respect me enough to not use it for 2 days out of 7. Seriously, he needed it that much that he did a quickie while i washed the baby? Even though it was a weekend and we always have sex on a weekend. This was a little over a year go. Our marriage is extremely rocky right now as i have no respect for the man and my libido is now lost. And even though i throw out his toy a long time ago, the porn and masturbating still persist and is the source of our problem right now.
The "real doll" reeks of effort. I would have to pick it up and get it into position, after the deed is done I would have to clean it up and pick it up to put it away. Really the only time I would probably use such a thing is when I'm drunk. That means I would pass out afterwards and have a dried mess to clean the next day. What would I use to clean it? A bottle brush?
If you read the owners manual on care of the doll then trust me, you will not want one.
It actually suggest to put her in a bath tube to be washed. You have no idea how heavy it is, OMG. You'd need two full grown men to maneuver that thing unless you have some kind of pully system installed in your home.
also you do have to clean her inside after and before use. Or use a condom each time.
Her skin although made of real silicone is very tacky to the touch. It attracts lint and dust like crazy not to mention it can and will stain fabrics (like my poor couch). You have to keep it smooth by applying baby powder.
So really, is this something worth paying upwards of 8 grand for?
I don't know. Atleast i didn't care that he go to his computer room and did his thing (i know what he was doing) back then but i guess the problem started when he started to struggle when we had sex. Know that i gave birth to 3 kids the natural way and i have to admit that i am not a tight as i used to me. I cannot compare to the tightness that a toy made to get men off is. Just as he can't compare to a very large and thick dildo. Anyway, i have been doing kegels for over a year now and have found it helped. But back to the problem. I noticed he started to struggle when having sex and because of the toy, he started masturbating more then usual. Then came the porn because like i said, visual stimulation. The breaking point came when we agreed that he stop use of the toy on weekends and save those day for me. I was giving my baby a bath and afterwards while cleaning up, i found his toy underneath his computer. I was extremely disappointed that he could not even respect me enough to not use it for 2 days out of 7. Seriously, he needed it that much that he did a quickie while i washed the baby? Even though it was a weekend and we always have sex on a weekend. This was a little over a year go. Our marriage is extremely rocky right now as i have no respect for the man and my libido is now lost. And even though i throw out his toy a long time ago, the porn and masturbating still persist and is the source of our problem right now.
So - the toy really did kind of kickstart things then.
I read stuff like this - and I really hope you women don't think we are ALL like this.
None of us are perfect - not by a long stretch. But this sets the bar pretty low.
If you read the owners manual on care of the doll then trust me, you will not want one.
It actually suggest to put her in a bath tube to be washed. You have no idea how heavy it is, OMG. You'd need two full grown men to maneuver that thing unless you have some kind of pully system installed in your home.
also you do have to clean her inside after and before use. Or use a condom each time.
Her skin although made of real silicone is very tacky to the touch. It attracts lint and dust like crazy not to mention it can and will stain fabrics (like my poor couch). You have to keep it smooth by applying baby powder.
So really, is this something worth paying upwards of 8 grand for?
No the thing is not worth 8 grand. Not only that but I know the lady of the house would never ever go for it.
Re: Women's thoughts on "Real Dolls" 
