I tried to tell him that I feel rejected and sad every time he says no, but he says that it is different. He says I left to punish him, and when he says no it is because he is tired. Maybe he is right. I wasn't thinking punishment, but I was thinking that I am tired that everything is always on his terms. Should I be hopeful that now he knows how I feel? Or did I mess things up by not going with the flow?
I think it is Good that the truth has come out. A shame it had to come out by your rejecting him. BUt good that he got mad - and cared. Maybe I am twisted, but that would make ME feel better, than if he didnt care at all.
If you truly want the sex, and more of it, by all means be available when you know he is in the mood, but at the same time, there is nothing wrong with opening up and expressing your hurt when you are feeling rejected. Not enough spouses do this, they start playing games, using the Silent treatment, none of this is good.
Is he really tired or do you feel it is an excuse?
My husband needs way more sleep than me. I have a high energy level. These days, cause I want alot of sex, I make sure he gets his sleep , I will send him to bed early if we might want a romp in the morning before work.
Now that the truth has come out, how is HE responding to you ? Caring or cold , same old same old ?