I believe that giving myself permission to be sexual is what has been needed and a reminder that sex between a married couple is not dirty.
Amen sister ! You can do this, that was one wonderful start, what you did, how you planned.
Many many books on the market, plus advice here to help you LIGHT your fire and expreess that to him. Here is one example of many on amazon Amazon.com: Light His Fire: How to Keep Your Man Passionately and Hopelessly in Love With You (9780440207535): Ellen Kreidman: Books: Reviews, Prices & more
I too used to look at sex as "dirty" - husband used to joke I was like a NUN, I definetly feel he was exagerating but oh if you could see me in action now.
Really, us women can have a revelation/awakening , we can
change! Never doubt this.
I went from Nun mindset (sex is dirty, embarrassed about my body, Bj's were icky, had to have the light outs-under the covers, no moaning, rarely any flirting, didn't even think to buy lingerie) to Nympho/Seductress these days !! Now I heartliy Enjoy Porn, worship his penis, flirt all day long, so anxious to try new positions, moan in the bedroom, aggressively attack him when he gets home if I want it. He LOVES this! He never thought he would see it but is happy to ride this out as long as it lasts. We have always had a "good" marraige but this new passionate Lusting I have after him , well it is contagoius - and it has truly ENHANCED everything in our world. I am more patient with the kids, He is happier than he has ever been.
This is a sure fire way to AffAIR-PROOF your marraige to the man you love.
Other things you can do- Alot of good suggestions above, the whispering, the texting, when eating out ,touch him under the table sensually, touch his chest when sitting next to him & slide your hand down on him when noone is looking, give him that grin he is going to be a happy boy that night.
Greet him at the door after work with lingerie, have fun searching Ebay for hot lingerie & surprising him in various ways, send him an email message with a Romantic love song that defines your love, (better yet if you have "Movie Maker software" on your computer, make him a VIDEO with the love song & memories of the 2 of you-from the beginning to now), plan a romantic Vacation (ex: Cove Haven, the Poconos -in PA) they have a private heart shaped swimming pool in your room!
So much sweetness ahead of you, your journey has just begun.
This dirtiness within marriage, where did this thinking come from -share your story if you will. Just know, as it was learned, it too can be UNlearned. My own struggle with this issue is proof.
So happy for your new start in life -towards Passion & LUST towards your husband. The more you give here, the more you may receive!