Are sexual favors a bad idea in a marriage? My W wants sex maybe once a month, never masturbates, and almost never initiates (true for a decade). So I hope for the occasional hand-job, and in exchange I give a massage. Problem is, even that "trade" isn't working out because she A) just wants a backrub because her back hurts, but does not want to please me because she's tired, or B) tells me she would rather engage in sex but "has a headache" or "didn't take a shower", but wouldn't mind the backrub. I usually get either sex or the handjob after three weeks of asking if such-and-such would be good for...anything. I don't get angry, or try to make her feel guilty. I just ask. I can't help but look disappointed when my sex-life consists mainly of releasing my sexual tension myself most of the time. When she DOES have sex I can make her cum several times in a row and she enjoys it. It may be she only likes sex of any sort when it's mutual and she's feeling horny (a rare thing).
Thoughts? I thought a low-libido wife might be a bit more...um...generous. Maybe I'm thinking about this all wrong? I really don't know.
Thoughts? I thought a low-libido wife might be a bit more...um...generous. Maybe I'm thinking about this all wrong? I really don't know.