marcopoly69

Hi everyone, I am asking this questions as I get frustrated when my wife gives me a bj that is not the kind of bj that makes you really really apreciate your wife. Don't take me wrong, sometimes she has been able to do the most amazing mind blowing bjs but the problem is that for some reason she is not consistant or she does not really know me....anyway, to the women in this forum, do you experience the same thing? or the bjs you give your husband are always mind blowing or some times the can be very borring and lousy.....thanks

dblkman

have you talked to her?

marcopoly69

I don't know really....I get 3 or 4 bjs in a month and as I am waiting for them, I start imagining how they will be so I get your point about having hight expectations...but I can't help feeling that, if a woman knows her man, and really wants to give him a bj, that one should expect the woman really wanting to do it for many reasons being the most important one because she likes it and make her feel warm inside...I don't know.....to me, a bad bj really bring me down since when it has been amazing is as good as your best sex....but when it is not good enough is rather sad....it is like at some point you just want to finish for her to stop...she has the best intentions but she is just not good at it sometimes......ahahhahahhassssssssssssssssssrrrrgg g I love it so much that makes me really blue since next time, I don't know how is it going to be....and she even says that I think too much....but I wouldn't if she would make me feel like she is really taking her time to feel confortable, to add some variaty, to show me she also wants it, etc.....I am not crasy...this is very important to men and the women who are succesful as being able to do a bj that is always mind blowing is considered a Queen......but to get there, women needs to invest in educating herself and communicating - things my wife does not do...

marcopoly69

Several times and she has improved but there is no consistency, last night she made feel like she was in a hurry, so fast and violent....for too long....she was almost sweating - I talked to her this morning and told her that we are good...but just can''t help to feel like why why it is not possible to expect the best when you always try to do your best....anyway, my wife just doesn't talk to me about what she likes or dislikes too much...I have to guess....well, I guess I have to be grateful of how much she've changed....

tjohnson

My wife always tries to change it up and make it different. This makes for "inconsistancy" but, mixes it up and keeps it interesing. For me it keeps it from getting routine. Sometimes it feels like a whole new woman LOL. Like i am cheating without the STD's, guilt or possible loss of house/family...sorry..LOL....

If you want it a certain way perhaps you could simply instruct/request her to do it a certain way so it is how you like.

sntdwn2ufrmhvn

ok so here is the secret to giving a great BJ, and i think all women that are wonderful at it will agree, you need to learn to enjoy it, love it, and sincerely want to do it. i personally love it, i know my dh loves it, because he begs for them, and a couple seconds in his body is literally shaking so find a way to get her more into it, my question would be do you do the same for her?

Scannerguard

Will have to agree with the second post. YOu can't expect a mindblowing blowjob every time.

Let's face it. . .we are all not a 10 on a scale of 1 to 10 with Great Lays every single time.

Except me that is.

I know I am because my partner says, after the 73 second quickie, "Gee, that was great, Scannerguard. Unbelievable. Mindshattering." and I say, "I know, baby. I know."

prometheus

Dude, be thankful you are GETTING bjs!! My wife hasn't given me one in a year, I'd be satisfied if my wife would just butterfly kiss my penis. You dont know what you got until it's gone. Be happy with what you are getting. You could be in my shoes.

SimplyAmorous

These questions you ask are very funny. It doesn't matter about any of us - If any womon on here tells you she can give a mind blowing BJ every single time consistently, how is this going to help you?

I can attest I LOOOVVEEEE giving them to my husband (love the teasing, pleasing, lingering there, fingers up & down, roving hands on his chest, balls, thighs, grabbing his butt, pulling him closer)- I CRAVE going here just about every single night, my mouth makes its way under the covers - but he having a lower sex drive as he is getting older, does not need them as much as I desire to give them! He told me the other night , as much as he loves this, and he does --- I may be "desensitizing" him! So how crazy is that !! Sometimes I wish I had more men to practice on. No, I am just kidding!!

I only wish I could give him a Mind Blowing one every single day, but I can only bring him so far, or he wouldn't have any "power" left for me ! But that once a month BJ he gets when I am on my Monthy, OH yeah, mind blowing. I love it when he grabs my hair and pushes me into him. I think a man must feel his woman is "Making Love" to his penis to feel that Mind Blowing essence. If it feels boring, hum drum, she is not wrapped up into doing it. When I do my husband, it gets ME going- like a river.

L.M.COYL

SimplyAmorous,

Can you please talk to my wife?
Her bjs are 90% of the time, just ok.
I mean the first minute is ok, then it kindof gets boring and
its the ryhtym that gets me off.

I miss bjs from my youth when the women attacked my
stick like a hurricane.

That made me want to repeatedly plow them a-l-l n-i-g-h-t l---o---n---g!!!

SimplyAmorous

I used to be like your wife, in fact probably a whole lot worse!! I used to almost fear giving them, I was not comfortable down there at all, I was pathetic at it - Because at that time, I was "not" into it. I didnt enjoy it, I was young, inhibited, I had a "oral sex is dirty" mindset. I have since lost this, as you can easily feel in my posts.

I say all of this just to say - we women "can" change! Always hope! Is she up for reading for a better technique? I had some kind of Kick in my sex drive as I got older (entered into that "Cougar" stage), which also wet my appetite for learning. I was buying books on the subject, that is how much I cared to please my husband & rock him like a hurricane. (Love that song)

When she is doing it, do you let her know when it feels REALLY good (that begining part), vocally tell her what you love (to encourage her more so), offer a few suggestions, saying "I really LOVE it when you do _____" or "squeeze more here" , " a little faster", or "I would love it if you touched me this way", meanwhile always letting her know how much you love & appreciate this act.

Do you push her head down as it is getting really Hot for you, getting closer? Does she seem to like this -getting her more into it ? Maybe move yourself up & down a little to get the effect you want to feel to bring you closer.

Do you feel she has any hangups with doing it? How is her sex drive & enthusiam outside of BJ's?

changehappens

Well - I'd say that any bj would be mind blowing for me - it's been 24 years.... I wouldn't care about technique or whatever at all. Dreams are all I have now.

Catherine602

SA same here I am in the process of changing the turning point for me was understanding my H emotions and the meaning of sex for him. It is difficult I have a Catholicc upbring and that really killed my female sexuality. OP can you talk to her in terms of emotions, women hear and respond to an emotional needs not anything that sounds like a complaint or demand - not accusing you of this- Men don't or are not able to talk about their emotions for fear of having them negated. But I would read about male and female needs "His needs her needs" is a good book and get her to read as well. Even if she is not willing to read at lest you will understand your self better.
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Trenton

A stupid question deserves a stupid response. What the heck. Can God grant miracles? Is there a man alive who really cares what a woman says? Does the tallest man on Earth also have the largest penis on Earth?

My question for you would be...do you make your wife horny enough to want to give you an amazing blow job consistently? Take A Look In The Mirror...dude.

TheTopChef

I totally agree with you on what I bolded.

For the longest time I just did them because my husband enjoyed them. Ho-hum, do the deed, he's happy, ba-dum-bum-ch. You know? Then I came off the pill (LONG story about why, has nothing to do with wanting to conceive). I had been on the pill since I was 20 years old (am 32 now). I gained a sex drive I never thought possible! I was attacking my husband like a sailor on leave!

Blow jobs are very different now because I love to do them. Hearing/seeing him turned on turns me on.

I have a few things I do to make it an awesome BJ. The goal is not to get him off. The goal is to make it all about him. He can just sit back and enjoy. All I want to do is make him feel good. I am a paraplegic so I cannot do a much "movement" during sex, so this is my chance to do allllllllllll of the work.

My man has no complaints!

Yikes, that a little harsh.