11-10-2010, 07:03 AM
Join Date: Oct 2009
| | Re: Strange pleasures
Yeah, asking, demanding, begging, all this stuff...does not work. If that person were interested in those activities or exceptionally attracted to their spouse, this wouldn't be a problem. So...as much as you ask, she may oblige but she won't really be enthusiastic. Key here is to get her interested in other stuff to try...get her to be attracted to you and the idea of doing more in bed.
Your chance of getting your wife out of that state is to appear less interested, more attractive and tease her more. Try to convince her you're not that available -if she were to ask for sex there might be a chance you'd say no; - if you flirt with her it doesn't necessarily lead to sex unless she does some work for it to get there.
Finally, some things she may think inappropriate and vulgar. Don't jump and ask for anal if you can't convince her to switch positions from missionary. Don't ask for a strap on if she's too shy to keep the lights on. Getting her to open up, in my opinion, will take time and some change in your approach. Some things she may never accept but if she's truly attracted to you and she learns how pleasant some new positions and games can be she'll want more.
This is strictly the way i view things. There are plenty of things that could contribute. She could feel as if you just want a piece of tail but don't appreciate her in which case she'll feel ****ty if she dressed up and feel like that's the only way you'll ever be attracted to her. She may have too low a self esteem and not feel wanted enough to have the confidence to try new things. Aside from asking stuff, did you try talk to her, get to understand what she likes about sex, a man, what would make her feel extremely sexual?
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