Re: not attracted to my husband
Wow-this describes my feelings towards my husband exactly. Has anyone had any luck drumming up the attraction? In my head, I do love him like a brother/friend. He is a great father. We may have let our relationship go on autopilot but I feel exactly as the original poster stated. My attraction to him was never "strong" and I believe I married him using my head vs. my heart. I had sex with him for years without the emotional connection but I can't it do anymore. I feel grossed out, used and as if I'm slowly losing myself. So I told him I couldn't do it anymore and, all of a sudden, now- after yrs of telling him I don't feel emotionally connected, he asks if we're ok. What?! Now I have resentment thrown in the mix. I always knew that if I continued giving sex, he would think all was well and now he is confirming it. I told him I've been telling him for so long now that things are not ok- why has he not wanted to discuss it before? His reply: "No one likes to bring up negative things"
Anyone out there ever felt the same way and have a success story? I think in my heart, it's over - but still hold hope for my kids.