No Desire for Husband
Hi, I'm sure this has been brought up before on a site like this. I basically have no desire, no attraction to my husband whatsoever.
I noticed it started a few years ago--we married almost 9 years ago. I love him as a friend, and he is my best friend. We've had some good times. I'm really emotionally attached to hum. He's an all-around good guy, good person, good dad. I don't mind cuddling, I like that and holding hands, but am actually turned off to sex completely. If we could just cuddle and have no sex, love making that would be fine with me.
I think we have drifted apart, romantically, however. There's been a loss of connection. Everything revolves around kids and family activity.
I am also troubled by the fact that I have been fantasizing about other men--but faceless men or famous men. Not until recently. During love making, I go somewhere else in my head.
I feel bad about saying this, but he is just not physically attractive anymore. He's put on a lot of weight & gained a pot belly/beer belly. I know how that sounds. I thought that if you love some one, it shouldn't matter too much.
I don't know what to do. It is hurting the relationship, and he is starting to see through all though I've been pretending. I don't want to hurt his feelings, drive him away. I did tell him I don't have as much sex drive as I used to, which may or may not be true.
I don't want a divorce because of this!
Is some one else experiencing, of has experienced this? Any insight, perspectives, advice you have or just support is appreciated.
Thanks for reading.