My short answer is yes, divorce, at the very least move out and start dating, life is way too short and possibly ending unexpectedly to sleep in a cold bed with an unresponsive woman. Rosy Palm and her sisters can bring you to an orgasm, but it is not nearly equal to passion, the unspoken issue of sexual frustration can darken every minute you are together and many minutes you are apart.
I have no idea what normal is, women who are my close friends range from 60+ years old and horny as 17 year old boys to one who sees sex as her marital duty. I know the latter's husband has had an affair and was considering divorce, if his "friend" had been a better match the divorce would have happened.
I was in a 20+ year happy marriage to a woman who enjoyed sex greatly until three years ago when intercourse became painful along with negative personality changes post menopause, she is now 58.
My love for her has vanished, we both know I'll file for divorce after the holidays. We have had a lot of discussions these last few years, despite my request that she get counseling, talk to her OB-GYN, talk to her PCP and request a full workup, she hasn't done any of these, doesn't want to change, now thinks sex is dirty (this is the woman who jumped my bones all night long on our first date and continued to do so for years) now wants me to be her house/roommate and have a girlfriend or two on the side. This doesn't work for me, the woman I eventually want to be a part of my life should be a major part of it, not just an hour or two here and there. I think you feel the same way.
I've moved about as far as one can get and still be in the lower 48 states. I have had one date with more planned for this weekend, my dating site profile stating I'm affectionate, want an intimate relationship, think sex is a key part of relationships. The women I contact and those who contact me feel the same.
Check out plentyoffish.com, registration is free, browse your matches, accept you will be rejected at least as often as you get responses and move forward with your life.
My very limited experience tells me there are a lot of women looking for men who enjoy and want sex and have demonstrated they can sustain relationships for years. I get three contacts a week and have trouble keeping track.
My stbxw is not missing me, I'm definitely not missing her.
Been married for over 17 years. My wife has always been very cold when it comes to sex. Am in my early 40s and cannot take this no more. I feel am missing out alot by not being with someone more compatible in sex drive with me. What should I do. I don't feel I love her no more, I've been hurt by initiating sex and being rejected, also by suggesting she buys lengerie and we have a romantic get away. What do I do. She is sweet and nice, works hard at the house, which I also do. In alot of other things she's awesome, but no sex drive. When we do have sex, she lays there, I do all the work. Am I the only one with this problem? Is this normal? I feel I need more out of life, I cannot cheat, so I'm thinking of divorce so I can search for someone more compatible in sex with me. What to do?