Sex in MarriageSexual problems are common in many relationships. This section is for discussions about sexuality. Please limit discussions to those asking for help with a problem and those offering advice. Any other threads may be deleted.
Grandad - "Whats wrong with a man giving away a golden shower?? Sounds like a nice gift to me... Shoot, I wish somebody gave me a golden shower" - Boondocks
that is sooo funny, i had forgotten all about it...OMG!!!!
did riley ever tell grandad what it ment???
now i cant stop thinking about that episode...!!!!
AHEM...EWWW...
My girlfriend and I were discussing fantasies a few nights ago and she confessed that this is something that she would be interested in trying out sometime (golden shower), neither of us have ever done this before and I’m curious to know if anyone here has done this before and what the experience was like?
I am genuinely curious, did you ask her to elaborate on the emotions she attaches to the fantasy?
My husband said he wants to try it because he thinks it would be kinky... there may not be anything behind it.
I thought this out, and since I am making a real effort to spice things up, I am going to give this a try.
After more than a couple of drinks the other night we talked about it and the boundries we both have with it.
My plan is to wait until warmer months- bathing suit season, and try this out doors in a secluded area next to a river or lake. This should make clean up easier....
I also plan to drink nothing but water for a week leading up to this.
he told me where i could pee on him and where I couldn't, so i gotta work on my aim between now and then. ( LOL!)
I mean sure, it is kinda gross. I am not really into the idea of it, but I am willing to try anything at least once- especially if it will please my husband.
I think alot of it has to do with childhood issues and wanting to feel "punished" if you will.
Not sure why, but I will share: Years ago, I was living with my then boyfriend. He grew up in a very strict Catholic family who did not believe in pre-marital sex for any reason. His father was a virgin until he married...at 26. My boyfriend was lying about the nature of our relationship and had also told his parents that we were only dating. His parents had no idea we were living together. We lived 300 miles away. One day, they made a surprise visit and I answered the door. They clearly saw that we were living together and were furious. Clue number one that this guy was a bad choice.
They left after a few hours and he was in a rage. He was crying and then yelling and then asked me to pee on him. Um, what? I was dumbfounded to say the least. Clue number two that this guy was a bad choice.
I told him no and he grabbed me and insisted. It happened in the bathtub and to date was one of the most vile things I have ever experienced. It wasn't sexy or kinky....it was just awful. Here was a man I loved asking me to humiliate him. It went against everything I believed in. While it was happening he was telling me to yell at him and tell him he is evil. Again, what? He got furious that I didn't.
When it was over, I went into our bedroom and cried. He showered off and suddenly became a different person. Loving, caring and nice. Clue number three this guy is wrong for me.
We fell asleep in each others arms that night and woke up the next day feeling happy. I sat up and he did shortly after. What came out of his mouth next was the beginning to the end of the relationship. He said "how dare you humiliate me that way....you *****". And he smacked me across my cheek, hard. So hard, it took 6 days for the bruising and swelling to subside.
I think some people want to feel a sense of humiliation because they have deep seated childhood unresolved issues. A fantasy is a fantasy but sometimes there is a fine line between fantasy and mentally unstable. You will never know how it plays out until it is actually happening. That seems to high a risk for me at least.
That man was crazyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy........................ ...
Some men are creepyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy........................ ...
Yes, yes he was/is. He had serious issues with his sexuality, serious issues with women and serious issues from childhood. I should have pressed charges, for that and another incident. He now works as a criminal defense attorney who specializes in defending men accused of beating up women.
Yes, yes he was/is. He had serious issues with his sexuality, serious issues with women and serious issues from childhood. I should have pressed charges, for that and another incident. He now works as a criminal defense attorney who specializes in defending men accused of beating up women.
Some lawyers are crooks, they can make white black and black white. It is something they learned to make a living.
Good lawyers protect the weak and they are not after money, I respect this kind of lawyers!
I think alot of it has to do with childhood issues and wanting to feel "punished" if you will.
My H has a thing for sexual humiliation and I think it has a lot to do with the fact that his father was both intensely dominant AND essentially unavailable/inattentive to him as a child. Just a pet theory and not something I really discuss with him in any detail. For us, it's a playtime thing and hasn't raised any red flags.
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Originally Posted by Brennan
We fell asleep in each others arms that night and woke up the next day feeling happy. I sat up and he did shortly after. What came out of his mouth next was the beginning to the end of the relationship. He said "how dare you humiliate me that way....you *****". And he smacked me across my cheek, hard. So hard, it took 6 days for the bruising and swelling to subside.
If that ever happened in my house I would pack my stuff, take my daughter, and be gone in a heartbeat. How incredibly devastating for you. I'm so sorry this happened.
I have known people that are horrified at thought of oral, use of toys or co-masturbation.
And in my book, those things are pretty damn tame.
What I am pretty confident about is that what you see from someone in everyday interactions that appear normal - is absolutely zero indication of what they are like sexually.
Knew a girl that went out with a guy ... whom I met, and seemed pretty darned average, but apparently he needed to be bound, duct tape formed into ropes as his preference - in order to get off. She rolled with it for a while.
What I have learned from discussing sexuality with a good number of people is that I am apparently, woefully pedestrian - save for my abject terror of stripper clowns.
I think alot of it has to do with childhood issues and wanting to feel "punished" if you will.
Not sure why, but I will share: Years ago, I was living with my then boyfriend. He grew up in a very strict Catholic family who did not believe in pre-marital sex for any reason. His father was a virgin until he married...at 26. My boyfriend was lying about the nature of our relationship and had also told his parents that we were only dating. His parents had no idea we were living together. We lived 300 miles away. One day, they made a surprise visit and I answered the door. They clearly saw that we were living together and were furious. Clue number one that this guy was a bad choice.
They left after a few hours and he was in a rage. He was crying and then yelling and then asked me to pee on him. Um, what? I was dumbfounded to say the least. Clue number two that this guy was a bad choice.
I told him no and he grabbed me and insisted. It happened in the bathtub and to date was one of the most vile things I have ever experienced. It wasn't sexy or kinky....it was just awful. Here was a man I loved asking me to humiliate him. It went against everything I believed in. While it was happening he was telling me to yell at him and tell him he is evil. Again, what? He got furious that I didn't.
When it was over, I went into our bedroom and cried. He showered off and suddenly became a different person. Loving, caring and nice. Clue number three this guy is wrong for me.
We fell asleep in each others arms that night and woke up the next day feeling happy. I sat up and he did shortly after. What came out of his mouth next was the beginning to the end of the relationship. He said "how dare you humiliate me that way....you *****". And he smacked me across my cheek, hard. So hard, it took 6 days for the bruising and swelling to subside.
I think some people want to feel a sense of humiliation because they have deep seated childhood unresolved issues. A fantasy is a fantasy but sometimes there is a fine line between fantasy and mentally unstable. You will never know how it plays out until it is actually happening. That seems to high a risk for me at least.
I was raised Catholic and figured out it was not for me at age 13. Never, ever, ever felt like asking anyone to pee on me and then hit 'em for doing it.
Your former BF is one piece of work!
I think I'd blame the religiosity for a part of his problems. However, I also think his disturbed family life holds secrets you didn't delve into.
You are lucky and wise to have gotten away from him.
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