MsLonely

How can I get my husband's mouth to talk dirty? I mean he can't even talk sexy so let alone talk dirty. He doesn't express his feelings too much.
Any tips?
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LonelyNLost

Things turned around for us when I started being "dirtier". My H was always very proper with me, respected me and put me on a pedestal. The first time I rubbed myself during sex he was elated. I'd whisper things in his ear about how much I liked what he was doing, and now when we have rough sex he will just throw in comments here and there. We've never talked much in bed. But we satisfy each other. Last night was probably the most dirty he's been. We were both drunk, and he can go on forever when he's been drinking, and he just kept saying how much he loved my pu**y and couldnt stop. You've got to get those inhibitions down. If he likes the talking dirty tease him in dirty ways.

MsLonely

Thanks! My husband feels very uncomfortable to talk during sex. I need him to feel more comfortable to open his mouth. Maybe I should let him drink first.
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SimplyAmorous

I need ZERO drinks! Have never even been drunk a day in my life--husband says that might be dangeous!

My desire to talk dirty, act dirty & get dirty is Up there ! In bed, out of bed. I don't feel silly, I feel seductive, creative & energized by doing it. Any little comment I hear anywhere, I will immediately see the dirtiness potential in it & probably add to it, smile, have an erotic moment of bliss.

Even my kids make jokes about how dirty MOM is. We was on vacation this summer & my 13 yr old was telling me not to break off the twigs on the tree (there were signs visitors would have to pay $1 an inch or something), I was twiddling around with the limbs/leaves, he says to me "MOM, quit doing that", I was not thinking dirty at the time but said "Oh I just need something to do with my hands" - and he looks at me with this strange half co**ed smile & says "Mom, I KNOW what you are thinking". How funny it was.

What is so weird with me is >> I RARELY ever flirted in the past, or talked dirty. I didn't even like guys who acted this way, I felt they were fake. I guess after all these years, that flirtatious being that was buried has somehow been unleashed --the damm let loose. Look out. Husband is NOT much of a dirty talker, God How I wish he was! He is more of a toucher than a talker. I can live with this.

My feelings on this is --if am man is generally quiet to begin with, probably less of a chance getting him to be a very verbal in the bedroom. Mine will never reach the heights I dream of or feel I would have the most "FUN" with. I was always openly verbal - as husband would say -I used to talk about "the paint on the ceiling" when we were intimate, ramble about the kids, my schedule the next day. Of coarse he said nothing to stop me but he is much happier with my seductive erotic talk over that!! Once a talker, always a talker I guess. I just changed "Passions".

Best thing to do is work on your EROTIC self before him, explore ever more new physical ways to bring him to the mountain top, vocalize YOUR excitement as you are doing him, nothing wrong with asking how he likes something now & then, Hopefully as YOU open up , he may do so more freely.

I have been ridiculous enough to literally START fights with him over NOT flirting with me enough, or not asking me enough questions. None of you is probably dumb enough to go this far. I can't say it changes much, he KNOWS what I want, but can't seem to change what HE is. He has gotten better though in the last 2 yrs, as it used to be ALL silent. Now he will tell me how good something is-especially right after the orgasm, or direct me a little slower, squeeze a little harder there. And when your man does say anything -- encourage encourage encourage so he KNOWS you are loving it !!

This would have been forever MY husband if I had not went overboard in pursuing how much I need just a little bit more. Some guys are just "this way".

So fake I agree! We rarely HEAR anything we like in porn, we SEE alot we like but not HEAR what seems "real". A good R-rated Hot scene in a movie seems much more REAL in comparison.

Kinda came totally naturally for me when my sex drive climbed, it was just suddenly THERE. With the thoughts came the desire to verbalize what I was thinking & very much feeling. I never know what is going to come out of my mouth, the other day when we was on the verge of reaching our orgasms together, I generally let him know so he can "let himself go" saying "give it to me Hard" or similar - here I said "PLOW ME". That was a 1st.

Flirting is so much FUN!! I am re-living my youth -things I never did -but should have been doing & enjoying as all young people go through this stage in their lives. We skipped ours -and so here we are. It is all very fresh and alive for me personally.

I hope to never let these feelings & ways of interacting die between us. Even into our 70's I hope, and if MY hubby kicks the bucket, as a friend said about me at a party-they could see me as this Dirty old lady - pinching the young attendents butt in the nursing Home & him dropping his tray & running from me !

NaughtyByNight3

HI Mrs.LoneyGal--Just wondering how it was going with the talking during intimate moments? It really does spice things up if you can get yourself comfortable doing so. It took me 10 years to get my husband to open up!! He still isn't 100% sure of himself but he is doing to much better, but when I talk to him dirty I don't give him all closed statements....I ask questions that require and answer and it does excite him. And we have an understanding that anything goes, it is our private life I do not get mad no matter what kind of things are said, we enjoy it a lot. When I talk that way to him before we have sex, his performance is even different. So I hope it is working out for you too.

Coffee Amore

We flirt throughout the day in calls or texts.

Does your spouse talk dirty to you? Do you reciprocate? Yes and yes.
Do you even like it? Hell yeah! I couldn't be with someone who was silent or unable to talk dirty during intimate moments.
How did you make yourself comfortable to do this? How did you coax your spouse to open up to doing this?
I didn't have to coax him other than to tell him I liked what he had to say. Once he knew that, he took it to a whole new level. That's all I'm sayin'.

diwali123

I could write an erotic novel or the dialogue of a hot porn vid while we're doing and I get nothing back. Sometimes it makes me feel
so disconnected, like is he thinking about me, is he paying attention or is he off in his own thoughts or thinking about other things? I told him this weekend I really wanted him to talk. All he has to say is "that feels so good" or whatever. I don't need a novel. He said "you know I don't do that." yeah because you don't want to. I asked him
to at least make some noise which he did. That turned me on a lot. I'm going to talk to him
about how I feel disconnected. I don't think it's too much to ask!
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NancyEileen

I am a bit like Miss Manners also but know my husband loves dirty talk.

I sometimes go blank and feel silly.

What sounds sexy and dirty that men like and want to hear?

Do you get tired of hearing the same things?

i find it's much easier for me to send a dirty text but seem to freeze when we are in person...what's up with that? :-)

cloudwithleggs

I write dirty, i talk dirty, i have no shame

I actually like it though when he speaks in Spanish to me, he is a fluent speaker.

2nd_t!me iz_best

i do too. think women will think i sound stupid

diwali123

While we're on the subject, sometimes I have erotic dreams about my h and he gets really turned on by that. I'm wondering guys...if your wife wrote erotica about
you, that was really accurate get you turned on? What of she shared it with other people?
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cloudwithleggs

Wonders why they'd share it with others and what is written to one person is personal to that person.

When you get two people together that are talented at writing erotica to each other it is awesome

WadeWilson

I personally miss the old days of dirty talk....
But would feel embarassed by it now..
I am mildly interested in sexting with my wife...
But I'm paranoid that the somehow someone would see them... Or mistakenly be sent to the wrong person...

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2nd_t!me iz_best

like to moms, lol

NancyEileen

I ALMOST sent a booby flash pic by mistake to my sister that was meant for my husband.

I learned that it's not a good idea to be texting to 2 people at the same time!

Sis would have just laughed but I was happy I caught it in time!