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Old 12-17-2010, 11:45 AM   #31 (permalink)
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My initial thought is that this device may hurt, be too much or perhaps she climaxes so quickly that whe wants the stimulation (or the extreme stimulation this device provides) to stop. Perhaps that is why she is abruptly stopping you.

In fairness i will assume perhaps that your concerns that she is hiding the fact that if you continue to use the wand on her that she will scream and convulse in orgamic bliss that she is dousn';t want you to see. I would make sure that you let her communicate with you what she is feeling with everything you do to her. Try using lube and rubbing her in a variety of different ways. Up down, side to side. My husband recently did this to me and sparks practically flew. Critical that you ASK "is this good" is this better, etc. she may tell you when something is good but, may not tell you when it is not. You should try to learn her various stages of Orgasms. It may be a fun excersize for you to understand where she is at IE is she close to cumming, just about to come, did she already and needs to "back off" or is she ramping up for another...You can experiment.



I think doing this first (without bringing out the wand) will help you to understand her response and perhaps even be more in tune with how she/her body responds. This will not only help with your "Experiment" but, may improve your overall ability to please her and may also bring you to a new level of intimacy. Knowing how much stimulation she likes and when will be valuable for you to please her with and without toys. Only after doing this on a few occasions would I suggest moveing forward with "the big buzz" . When you are using toys continue to let her know how much you enjoy watching her and that you how much you enjoy giving her pleasure. Good luck with your journey and esperiment.


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Old 12-19-2010, 03:39 AM   #32 (permalink)
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my suggestion is to gag her really well
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Old 12-21-2010, 11:44 AM   #33 (permalink)
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yeah that was a great first post hamster... troll alert!
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Old 12-23-2010, 09:46 AM   #34 (permalink)
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I love it when my husband ties me up, blindfolds me, whips me, or just uses "force" (in a playful way of course). We have an understanding though - if I say stop - he stops. Instantly. I enjoy a little pain with my pleasure, but he's careful not to go to far. In fact I'm typically asking him to be more rough.

There is a good product out there. Bed straps. They hide nicely under the mattress and have velcro straps. I enjoy my hands tied, my feet not so much, but I let him do it every once in a while.

Handcuffs do hurt if you put them on too tight, I like mine a little snug - but beware they DO leave marks if she moves too much in them.

A good idea is to have a code word that REALLY means stop. Sometimes I'll say no, but only because it's so intense, not because it's unpleasurable. So for us, even thought stop generally means stop, if he asks if it's too much and I say "its yellow" it means it's getting to be too much but its not there yet. If I say "it's red" that means back off, slow down, stop, etc.

If it's green that means I can tolerate a higher level of intensity.
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Old 12-28-2010, 11:25 AM   #35 (permalink)
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I will never understand how men enjoy sexual acts, with a woman they had to pressure! They often forget that the woman's boundaries are important as well.
The OP comes across as a pig. Stop pushing your wife!! She's not your sex slave.
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Old 12-29-2010, 02:01 PM   #36 (permalink)
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I will never understand how men enjoy sexual acts, with a woman they had to pressure! They often forget that the woman's boundaries are important as well.
The OP comes across as a pig. Stop pushing your wife!! She's not your sex slave.
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I appreciate all your feedback.

To clarify my wife has domonstrated being "shy" about trying things in the past which after some gentle nudging she enjoyed them. I think i could be accused of being a pig if my intentions were to somehow derive pleasure from something that trully was against her wishes. I don't think this can be considered treating her like a sex slave but, perhaps we have different outlooks on things. If for example my wife wanted too tie me up so she could stimulate me analy-because she thought i might like it but, i was being shy or homophic and did so in a respectful manner and didn't hurt me would that be wrong?

I think it is human nature to tell white lies in the interest of protecting another's feelings. I know my wife, i am operating under the premise/suspician that these toys used in a certain way may/can/has take her to places my di#$, tonge or hand cannot take her. That she may know (perhaps from past experience) that from what she has said that she is afraid to let go. Perhaps she will squirt, scream in orgasmig bliss or tell me to stop. Either way i think it will be fun.

Thanks again for your comments.
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